I posted a question the other day about potty training and how I make my daughter wear at least panties or swim suit when daddy's home. I got comments in one group that really bothered me. I was just wondering how many of you make your daughter cover up when there are males around. In our house, Daddy doesn't do diapers, pottying, or baths unless I'm not available or not home. That's just how it is. If I'm there, there's no reason he needs to do it.

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 1:01 AM I agree.  There's no reason for little girls to run around stark naked in front of anybody.  I can't believe someone would give you crap about that!  Modesty, like everything else, is learned behavior. 

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 1:03 AM

I have a daughter and a son. We are a co-sleeping family. I have found that the less taboo we put on our all of our nakedness around each other, the less problems we have in that area. Unfortunately, the same is not true for many other families out there. If modesty works best for some families, then so be it. One size does NOT fit all when it comes to this issue. \


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Jun. 1, 2008 at 1:05 AM I don't know you, and I hope you don't mind my comment, but it sounds like you are making a big deal out of something that is just a part of nature.  If your child were a boy, would dad change him?  I mean, is it a "dad hates diapers" thing, or more of a  "no looking at the opposite sex" thing?  I require my kids to wear clothes, the boy and the girl, regardless of who is present.  But I also took either one into the shower with me until around age 2 1/2, and if they need help with bath or dressing, either I or my husband can do it.  Having different rules about clothes when dad (or another male) is present may confuse her,  make her ashamed of her body, or cause her to be way more curious about the opposite sex than you want her to be!  Just my opinion.  Good luck with your darling little girl.

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 1:07 AM I think there is a point when it would be inappropriate for daddy to see his daughter without clothes, but when she's still in diapers, in my opinion, is not one of those times. My daughter is 17 months old and my husband gives her baths and changes diapers ( except stinky ones, he gets sick and i'd rather clean up her mess than both of theirs lol). There has never been a concern about this in our house and I feel no need to be concerned. I am not judging you by any means, just telling you how it is here. Every family makes decisions based on whats comfortable and right for them, and that is how it should be.

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