Why is it so hard?  We tried once again to have a good visit with my youngest step-daughter,  Of course we thought it was going great, we were talking and making plans for the summer.  When mom showed up with a police officer saying the daughter had called her, we were shocked.  What do we have to do to prove to her that we care about her just as much as the other 4 children we have?!  Yeah, we don't spend as much money on her as her mother, but they only have 2 children and dad pays enough child support to pay their house payment so to speak.  We've always tried to show the kids that it isn't about the money, it's about the time spent together.  We go out to eat, to the zoo, to the park, etc.  We always try to involve the kids with everything we do.  I like to think that we are very family oriented.

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amand...
Jun. 1, 2008 at 9:47 AM i understand what you are goin through. i have a six year old step daughter. for the longest time she lied about me and was mean as sin. it was just something she had to grow out of as she learned that we do love you. good luck and if you need to talk just send me.

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sour_...
Jun. 1, 2008 at 9:52 AM How old is she? Because depending on her age is the reason behind this. She may be mad at you for "braking up her family." Granted I am not accusing you of this. But I am a step child! When a parent marries someone else it shoes the child that there is no way his/her parents are going to get back together. Or she might just not like you. No matter what you do, you wont be able to change this till she states acting like an adult. But don't give up and don't push the issue. You will only make her not like you more. You might want to talk to talk with a therapist and have her talk to the same one. Sometimes, just someone that she can talk to that doesn't take sides really helps (I know this because I had one).

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sugar...
Jun. 1, 2008 at 9:52 AM Thanks, my husband and I have been together for almost 8 years and married for 6 1/2.

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sugar...
Jun. 1, 2008 at 9:56 AM Right now the problem doesn't seem to be with me, she is mad at dad.  Mom divorced and remarried right away when they were younger and then divorced and remarried again while my husband and I have been together.  We always try to invlove the kids in everything because we have the mine, yours, and ours going on.  Five children total.  Now she isn't the youngest in our house but is at mom's.  We never force her to come, we have always told the girls if they have plans to let us know and maybe we could just spen a couple hours together for the visit.

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sugar...
Jun. 1, 2008 at 9:57 AM Oh yeah, I forgot she is 13. The two oldest are my step- daughters (15 and 13).  Then I have a 8, 11 year old boy and girl plus we have a 4 year old.

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