Please someone tell me how you stop loving someone. I'm in so much hurt and pain over this. Somedays are better, but days like this are just horrible. Its like he just broke up with me all over again.


Hes becoming a drug addict and basically all he does is smoke weed and have sex with his homewrecker girlfriend. They BOTH KNOW that hes going to be a father, and they don't want to care. They want to be selfish and leave me all alone with this baby. Because they are "so in love" and they "are getting married" and they "are going to live together" He promised the same things to me...and now theres a baby and he decides he can't be happy with me.


Why am I so unlovable? Why should I have to do this alone?



Hes proved that he will never be a good father...Hes proved hes not worthy of love. So why is he the one who is getting held? Why is he the one who gets to see the person he loves almost everyday? Why is he the one who can have friends that love him and so much happiness?!


God grew tired of me.... and I've lost such a great amount of hope. This will never end.


Please...tell me how to stop loving him.

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 1:43 PM YOu need to love yourself first....you don't need a man or anyone to love you.   Once you love yourself and respect yourself, your self confidence in life will rise and you will become a strong person.

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 2:18 PM oh sweetie you wont stop loving him instantly you will begin to notice it fading until one day you wake up and dont think about him...because you are too busy enjoying your beautiful baby...i promise

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 6:50 PM

Nothing heals immediately....it always takes time. It hurts, especially when you are pregnant and you don't really get that break, you know? The break where you get to heal and not see each other so you can get over it. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, one day it you will wake up and you will realize that you're gonna be okay. It's been almost 9 months since my BD dumped me and went back to his wife and kid...and you know what? It still bothers me sometimes. But it's not the same chest ripping pain that it was in the beginning....now it's just sort of like a fleeting thought of disappointment and oh well....

It gets better. It's not gonna happen today or tomorrow, but just gradually. Once your belly starts getting bigger, and you get closer to the time when the baby is going to be born, your focus changes because all you want is for this baby to have a wonderful life...and once you realize that....nothing is ever the same...

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 6:51 PM P.S. and you are NOT unlovable....just cos that guy is a dick doesn't mean that you'll never find love again....you are pretty and smart and you obviously love your baby....you are an amazing person!!!!

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 8:47 PM You said God grew tired of you....honey, he has given you the greatest gift! You are going to have a child! I know you have to be under a lot of stress with a new pregnancy and a break up but keep your chin up and try not to worry about him so much. If this is what he was going to choose.... Thank God he chose this BEFORE the baby came. I wouldn't worry too much about him anyway. He doesn't deserve you. And just because a man is an a$$hole, doesn't actually mean he will be a bad dad. Some men are good with children but not with women and vise versa. Also, what the heck is this other chick thinking?! If he is leaving you pregnant, why does she think he is going to change and treat her any better? He will get tired of her too!! And watch out for her because once the baby is born she is probably going to be VERY jealous of you, the baby and the time he spends at your house with the baby.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 9:00 PM This is why I don't want him around the child if hes still with her when it is born. How am I going to know that if he takes my child somewhere with her and I'm not there...if he leaves the room, how am I going to know whether or not she is going to try to kill my baby and blame it on something else?

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Jun. 4, 2008 at 8:58 PM Awh, honey your not unloveable he is just an inconsiderate a$$hole. Love yourself. What goes around comes around. He may learn one day. You need to stipulate that visitation is only w/him. If he wants it any other way then tell him to go to court. She has no right to be there.

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Jun. 10, 2008 at 7:34 PM

You are the babys life line right now and will be for ever and always never for get that...........Whatever he does you cannot help. I can promise you one thing when YOUR baby gets put into your arms MOM will kick in and he will in forth place behind God your baby yourself then maybe him.....Right now your hormones are wacked out of control so just take it easy,if he is already with some one else don.t make a mistake by letting him back into your life. He obviously has somewhere to lay his head let it stay somewhare and you keep on doing for you and YOUR baby..............Now adays there is help for WOMEN in yur position sak for it accetp it and be proud to hold your head high. No body knows him like you do start a journal good side of him daily and bad side of him daily by the eigth month which side wins ? keep in mind the prize he may win or loose will be you and this beautiful little human being YOU are bringing into this world. Its not to be taken litely ITS FOREVER NOT TIL THE BABY IS 18 or 21 YOU WILL ALWAYS BE MOM.................So relax you have time take time to thank your self for being so smart and so blessed to be expecting a baby. What a BLESSING just for you.....YOU deserve It.   








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Jul. 7, 2008 at 2:23 PM God promises in his word that he will never leave us or forsake us. You can never become to far for God to forgive you. He loves you with all of his heart and he is waiting with open arms to accept you back.

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