This was a conversation I had with a friend of a boy that I've been seeing. She said she's worried about him.  I put this up on MySpace to see her's and his reaction to it.



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From: ..A..
Date: May 31, 2008 8:34 PM

So my friend Tommy really likes you, and honestly I'm worried about him and have a few questions for you as a concerned friend.
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From: ..Tamra..
Date: May 31, 2008 10:37 PM

Sure by all means ask away. Don't worry I'm not going to hurt him I'm not like that.
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From: ..A..
Date: Jun 1, 2008 8:42 AM

First of all, you don't know what the future holds, so you can't say that you're "not going to hurt him". You're barely older than I am, so don't try to play me for a young fool.

1. Are you looking for a job? If so have you put your resume in with employment agencies?

2. Are you REALLY trying to get help w/your addiction to sex? From what I've read in your blogs, you're not. Not only that, but to even write about something like that, on a public profile that everyone can ready, you're advertising. You don't even say that you regret the choices, or that you've learned from them. To be perfectly honest, I've had a few of my guy friends look at your profile and read what you've written, none of them would date you seriously, which SERIOUSLY CONCERNS ME!

3. You give the impression that you actually MISS BEING W/YOUR EX, Tommy. Yet you told Tommy, that is not the case. Which is it? Be honest w/yourself as you answer that question.

4. Why did you cheat on your current ex-boyfriend?

5. Are you looking for a serious relationship? If you are, why did you tell Tommy that you're afraid of hurting him? When you say things like that especially right after he tells you how he feels, you're saying ya'll aren't on the same page.

I'm sorry if I come off as a bitch, but I love my friends, and Tommy is one of my best. These are only SOME of the items that concern me. Tommy is blinded by lust right now, and will only see what he wishes to see cause he wants this to work very badly. You, my dear, are a walking contradiction, and you need to straighten some shit out. Despite what you tell him, what I've read about you says the opposite. Let me give you a warning...if all you're looking for is some random guy to rescue you from your current situation, and that's what you're using Tommy for, the results won't be pretty.
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From: ..Tamra..
Date: Jun 1, 2008 10:30 AM

You do come off as a bitch and until you change that attitude I don't feel I need to answer any of these questions. I know you only want whats best for him and I may not be it. He does like me and trust me so deal with it.
Try to be a little nicer and I will answer your questions.
Do you really think he would be happy with you being this way with someone he cares about?
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From: ..A..
Date: Jun 1, 2008 10:47 AM

I'm sorry if you feel as though I was attacking you. I wasn't. I am a VERY straight forward person and a lot of people don't care for it, but at the same time, I don't have time to mess around with the b/s. I don't mean to come off as harsh, I really don't. Those questions, unfortunately don't leave room to ask in a "nicer" way. If I wanted to attack you, I wouldn't have asked what I did. I would have stated EXACTLY what I felt and left it as that. I am trying to give you the opportunity to change the first impression.
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From: ..Tamra..
Date: Jun 1, 2008 11:21 AM

Here it goes. Enjoy. And you can ask anything else. I'm an open book, which is why you seem to have a problem with me. Just don't be a bitch.

1 I have been looking for a job since January but no one seems to want me. And yes I've done everything I could.
2 The sex addiction was a lifestyle I had when I was 19 years old don't really think I need help. Until I met Tommy I had'nt had sex with but two guys. I was afraid that I may get back into that lifestyle but it hasn't happened yet. I still love sex but can do it with just one person.
I don't regret any of the things I've ever done so no I don't mind who reads it. Some people, like Tommy, can read them and see it as just my past and thats all. And trust me I've learned from everything I've ever done in my life.
3 That Tommy is my son's father and that is what I miss. He saw my son once as a baby and never again till just a few weeks ago. I damn sure don't miss him because we weren't even in a real relationship at the time. He simply gave my standards which I tend to compare all the guys to because of an idea I have of him not the actual guy.
4 We had'nt kissed or touched in almost a fucking year. That should say it all. I should have just left his ass but didn't because for a long time I thought more about my son and him than myself. Now its my turn to get what I want.
5 I am wanting a relationship. Tommy is just going way to fast and I can't handle it. That's why I said I didn't want to hurt him because I'm not ready for all this. I've told him that.

My life is fucked up right now and it would be great if some boy could save me but not going to happen. If I was that kind of girl I would have already let him take me away and move in to a place together. But that would be stupid and luckily he finally agreed. I'm not using him for anything but the happiness we both feel. Both of us.

I'm a very straight forward person too and that's why you pissed me off so much. And the only person who has to deal with the b/s is Tommy and he obviously doesn't mind it. And please I want to know how you really feel about me don't be a coward. You've never gotten a first impression of me just the me from my past so me changing that isn't necessary.

All I want from you is to have respect for your friend. You may think he's making a mistake but he doesn't just be there for him. I really don't care if you like me but he does
From: ..A..
Date: Jun 1, 2008 11:44 AM

You don't have to worry about me having respect for Tommy, I always have and always will. I will always be there for him, no matter what. I have already gotten a first impression of you, and it wasn't good. I only hope for you and I to be amicable. For a job, I would recommend submitting your resume to a company called spherion.
you can go to ..www. spherion.
com.. .

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 5:48 PM it seems to me that this person likes your boyfriend. i would not have answered any of her questions she was a HUGE is none of her business

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 5:59 PM

Wow.  She sounds like a nosey control freak bitch.  I'm not sure if she is romantically interested in him, but she certainly is overstepping her boundaries as "just a friend."  Good luck with that.

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