It's worse than we thought. I dropped the girl's off at my mother's house tonight to go over to my sister's house. I walked in and her house is apauling. It looked like it hadn't been cleaned in over a month. Dy'Quon was sitting strapped in his car seat with dirty clothes on. My sister was lying on the couch sleeping.

Just thinking about this and typing it out kills me inside. I snapped when I saw all of this. I picked up Dy'Quon and started screaming at Teisha. I told her I couldn't believe that we came from the same blood, that I couldn't believe two people with the same DNA could be so damn different. I no longer feel bad for her, I am traumatized for her son. 

After I got done screaming at her I told her that I wanted custody of Dy'Quon. I told her she needed to go to rehab and get help for her son and herself. She told me she was pregnant again. I am floored. She can't take care of herself let alone 2 children. 

I am not an advocate for abortion, I however believe that this is the best route for her. 

This woman, my own flesh and blood didn't even care that I wanted custody of her child!! Dy'quon is here with me, sleeping in the girls' crib in some new clothes that I had to go out and buy him. I also had to go buy him pampers. 

I have no words for the situation I am in. I don't know what i'm going to do with my sister or this child that I am now caring for. I don't even know how to go about getting custody of this child. I can't let him go back there. I just can't. 

If anyone has advice, please, please help me.





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Jun. 1, 2008 at 10:17 PM Wow. What is wrong with her? Is she sick or just lazy? I don't know the backstory on this. I definitely feel very bad for her son! That is terrible!! And she is pregnant again?? No way! Can you give me any more info?

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 10:20 PM Ok. I just saw your other journal on her. I would try to get custody of him. If she doesn't care, then she can't really say no.....And I know that even though four kids is a handful, he would be better off with blood, with someone that knows and loves him and not with the state.

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 10:23 PM I would consult a family law attorney then with help go to the court house and file a motion for temporary emergency custody. Try to bring as much proof of why with you. Any thing you think even might be slightly relevant bring it. Also have ready paperwork to show you can financially and emotionally care for this child. Gather witnesses and noterised affidavides from people who can attest to your sisters lack of capability to care for her son also. Anything like pictures of the squaller in the apartment, proof of and or statementsfrom witnesses and family of drug or alchol use, neglect or general poor parenting will all help the courts to make a ruling. Testimony from family will go a long way too. I hope this helps you. Good luck.

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 10:27 PM

I am sooo glad that your sister has you in her life.  I'm even more glad that Dy'Quon has you as his auntie.  I had a similar situation years ago.  A former foster child (who was a teen mom) ended up spiraling down on drugs.  She called me in the middle of the night to tell me that I needed to come get her son who was 5 mos old.  I went to pick him up.  The house was filthy.  She handed me a bag of clothes that I later realized was just a mish-mash of clean & dirty clothes of all matching socks, tops of pajams w/no bottoms, etc.  There was nothing in the bag that he could wear.  He was also really, really sick.  He had asthma and had to be Nebulized 4 times a day.  She did not follow through so he had pneumonia.  He was pitiful.

Anyway, I called Children's Services (CPS, DHS....whatever it's called where you live).  I told them the situation.  They gave me temporary custody of the baby until they could figure out what needed to be done.  They also gave me emergency vouchers to get clothes and diapers for him.  They had to give me a new medical card because she couldn't find it.  When I took him to the doctor, they said that if he would have stayed with her a few more days, he could have died from the pneumonia.

We ended up caring for him as a foster child until he was 13 months old.  During that time, his mom had disappeared for about 3 months.  But she came back and got herself into a residential treatment program for moms & babies.  So...he went back to her healthy and happy.

Good luck.  I will keep you and your family in my thoughts. 

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