Let me begin by saying I love both my MIL and FIL very much.  They are wonderful, big hearted people.

Ever since DH and I got married, they have been very good to me.  However, lots of times DH and I are not invited on vacations that his sister, her DH, and her kids go on.   I've mainly figured it was simply that they didn't think we had enough vacation time or money to go.

Well, now I don't know----and boy am I pissed!!!!

Back in February, MIL called to ask DH if they could take his kids to Disney World in December.   Didn't invite DH or me or my kids.  But, you know, I figured it was supposed to be Grandmommy and Grandaddy time with their grand-kids.   I can handle that.

However, we decided that with exams at the beginning of January that December isn't a good time to go.    My SD will be in her junior year of high school and she struggles to keep her grades up.  She wants to be able to get into a good school.   MY SD is 11 and he actually could probably miss a week of school, but SD can't.  SD's maternal grandma died in April and she didn't even miss school to go to the funeral.  (it was 12 hours away).

DH called his mom told her no.  I looked at the school calendar and found a week in January, right after exams, when they could go to Disney for a week and only miss 2 days.   I emailed and suggested this week as an alternate.  I also added that DH and I might could go along.  We never heard back.

Well........tonight I get an email from my sister-in-law.    She wants my skids to look at a website with Disney restaurants so that she can go ahead and make dinner reservations for all of them on their December Disney trip.

WTH?

So...not only did the in-laws ignore DH saying they couldn't go....and ignore my suggestion for a better week...they are also planning to go with my SIL, her HD, and her 2 kids.  One of which will only be 12 months old in December.

And to make matters worse, we are going to the beach in 2 weeks.  I spent an extra $300 on the house we are renting so there would be room for the in-laws to come spend a few days with us.  We do that EVERY year.  We dont' ask them to pay anything, we just want them to join us.

UGH!  I am so frustrated.  I usually let DH handle decisions with his kids.  But, tonight, I said, babie, I'm sorry but I am putting my foot down.    They Can't go in December, and I have a good mind to say they can't go at all.  Why can't we go with our kids?  We would pay our share!   We wouldn't expect them to foot the bill or anything.

Anyhow......thanks for letting me vent.  My heartbeat is slowing down a little bit now.

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swtan...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:15 AM I'm sorry you have to deal with that crap. Its the same with my mil. Her and my fil are always doing stuff with my sil's kids. But never invite mine. Even when they lived next door. Literally. Now we just do our own thing and exclude them from all our fun. It still pisses me off though. SO I know what your going through.

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srwbrown
Jun. 3, 2008 at 9:02 AM That sucks...especially for your kids.  And the part about not inviting you & your dh & your kids even though you will foot your own bill - even though you include them every year and don't ask them to pay?!?!?!?!  Oh.heyyyyyy-ulllll.no!!!  I think you're doing the right thing putting your foot down. They probably don't see anything wrong with this treatment and if they aren't corrected, they won't.  Put your foot down, bring it to their attention, remind them of your suggestion for a better week, and hope for the best.  It's kinda like what I did with my sisters a while ago.

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