Lucky you... you get to read my before-bed rant.

I find a lot of women here to be very "in your face" about their beliefs/lifestyles/opinions. This site can be kinda cult-ish and weird.

Don't get me wrong, I like this site. I spend a lot of time here. But I can't help but to feel overwhelmed sometimes at the amount of spewing these women do all over this site.

From siggies that specify one's parenting choices and/or religious beliefs and/or other lifestyle choices, to replies on journals or group posts that scream intolerance and judgment to just plain in-your-face BASHING, this site is so full of women who are virtually screaming at the top of their lungs!

It's as if, for some people, they finally found a way to validate the things they do and the choices they make. For others it seems as though they are more than willing and happy to tell another mom what she should or shouldn't be doing, because she has all the answers and clearly knows best. And for some it seems to be defense, as if they regret a decision they made and now have to spend all of their free time on this website defending themselves so that they can talk themselves into feeling better about it all. Yes, for others it just seems like a simple "this is me" kind of thing, and that's different than what I'm ranting about.

Most of all, I see a lot of pride.

Now, there is nothing wrong with being proud of the woman and the mother that you are. There is nothing wrong with feeling very strongly about things and having the desire to shout to the world how you feel. My problem with it all is that so many women are rude, closed-minded, judgemental, stone throwing know-it-alls.

It wouldn't be so bad to try and not be so "in your face" about things.

That's all.

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Kirlycat
Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:15 AM Every day there is at least one post like this. And i agree. When I first got here, I was bashed, almost left. but just decided to let it fly. My main reason for being here, besides the few friends i have grown to care about and keep in touch with, is to get advice from other mothers going through the same thing. And when I have made a decision, caring to hear what others think, if they have constructive criticism, and something to comment that maybe i didn't think about. But you said what yousaid very well. have a wonderful night!!!!

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ruthi...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:16 AM Huh, I think you said it all girl! hehehee Nice to meet you....

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my4pi...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 2:25 AM

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kenna...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 3:30 AM Word!!

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MomOf...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 7:51 AM Great post!  I know exactly what you mean!

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bentl...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 8:07 AM yep, yep

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Kayoz
Jun. 2, 2008 at 9:40 AM yep, i stopped reading Posts in Groups that much...only when it's something interesting. I just look at Pictures and when i have a question i ask. It can be overwhelming.

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Zays_...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:33 AM I THINK THAT IS SOOO TRUE..  i like getting alll kinds of responses but i have seen some pretty rude comments!!! lighten up people!! lol go you mom!!

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Mom2C...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:44 AM Here Here!  Nice to know my thoughts are not alone...thanks for saying it for me!

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YogaM...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 11:08 AM I hear ya', lady. I really think women feel repressed in almost every way, so when we enter any forum of exchange it can get ugly. Because we aren't accustomed to having our feelings honored by a society at large we take any possible opportunity to reclaim power. (As misguided as that may be). We come off seeming angry and confused...which we are.  I struggle daily with this issue...in fact, it's one of my major life obstacles; living my life without seeking approval nor casting doubt and judgement towards others. Constantly chipping away at that 'old ego. Takes time and A LOT of self love. Hence my chocolate obsession.

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