Sharon's Journal

Dear Diary......(lol)

"Look on the bright side..."

"Well at least you... "

"The glass in half full..."

We've all heard these before.  They are all analogies for the way you perceive things.....life.  Growing up my Mom always told me that "Attitude is everything"  I never really knew what she was saying, I mean really understood what that statement meant.  Not until many, many years later do I now understand what she meant.  

Life can be miserable.  Or life can be wonderful.  It all depends on your outlook, or "attitude" on life.  You can look at set backs or annoyances in life as a sort of "punishment", or lament "Why is this happening to me?"   Or you can take that opportunity to look at your situation and say, "How can I make this better?"  or "What can I learn from this?" 

I have been having a very hard time lately with a lot of things in my life.  For the last 6 years life has been bordering on miserable for me.  Losing 4 important people in my life to cancer,  not only becoming a first time mother but having twins, leaving my job of 13 years, and losing that income, moving, the list goes on and on.  Suffice it to say life has been incredibly stressful.  Always playing the victim did not help things either.  In fact it made it much, much worse.  I became very depressed, unhappy, and well....miserable.  I couldn't understand why none of my friends called me anymore, no one stopped by anymore, my husband didn't talk much to me anymore, why my kids were unhappy, always whining, and throwing tantrums.  Then a few weeks ago I realized...its not them.....it's.......ME

It was MY attitude!  I realized that I was ALWAYS complaining about EVERYTHING to anyone that was in earshot!  I was just miserable to be around.  Why?  Because I was always saying "Why is this happening to me?"  "I'm being punished for something"  "Why do I always have to do everything?"  What changed my attitude you ask?

While looking through some documents on my laptop, I stumbled across the following document and it was exactly what I needed at that time.  I want to share this with whoever needs it right now.

Enjoy and remember....."Attitude is everything"

"I woke up early today, excited over all I get to do

before the clock strikes midnight. I have

responsibilities to fulfill today. My job is to choose

what kind of day I am going to have.

 

Today I can complain because the weather is rainy

or I can be thankful that the grass is getting

watered for free.

 

Today I can feel sad that I don't have more money

or I can be glad that my finances encourage me to

plan my purchases wisely and guide me away

from waste.

 

Today I can grumble about my health or I can

rejoice that I am alive.

 

Today I can lament over all that my parents didn't

give me when I was growing up or I can feel

grateful that they allowed me to be born.

 

Today I can cry because roses have thorns or I

can celebrate that thorns have roses.

 

Today I can mourn my lack of friends or I can

excitedly embark upon a quest to discover

new relationships.

 

Today I can whine because I have to go to

work or I can shout for joy because I have a

job to do.

 

Today I can complain because I have to go

to school or eagerly open my mind and fill it

with rich new tidbits of knowledge.

 

Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have

to do housework or I can feel honored because

God has provided shelter for my mind, body,

and soul.

 

Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped.

And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.

What today will be like is up to me. I get to choose

what kind of day I will have!" (Author unknown)

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coramw
Jun. 2, 2008 at 2:13 PM Thanks for sharing!  I have some of the same issues and feel the same way sometimes...it's hard to ALWAYS follow this, but even if just once a day, it gives hope for tomorrow! Have a beautiful Monday!

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TwinM...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 6:34 PM You are so right!  it is all about our attitude...I'm constantly telling my children to make the right choices, but am I?  I can choose to yell and holler because the toys don't get picked up or I can be thankful that I have children to make a mess, and rejoice in their creativity!  =)  Thanks for sharing this....I think I needed to read it.

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