My weekend started out ok , Fri. came home from work and the kids were having a lil campout in the back yard in a tent, right that was fine n dandy! Well Sat. was my DH b-day so We were suppose to go night fishing the two of us Any way to make long story short 3 of the boys went with us an some friends or at least i thought they were  friends , but I have my doubts now?  What i mean is when your over at someone else's house you and your children respect them and their rules! Am I right? Ok see here is what I am talking bout. Any way there were 8 kids counting my youngest 9 (my youngest is 5) Any way the girls were staying home inside w/ my youngest watching movies etc. with him till we get home, then they were able to go back out in the tent! Anyway the 3 boys went fishing w/ us adults and this other boy wanted to go and run the town while we were gone! And I STRICTLY SAID THERE WAS TO BE NO ONE COMMING OR GOING WHILE WE WERE NOT HOME! Well his mom went and asked my husband if he could leave with his friend and come back later ! Naturally my husband told him to be back by 1030. Well here the other kids see him leaving and they wounder why they can't?And these kids are all bout the same age 14-16 yrs. old? This is what caused my husband and I problems before and we split up for bout 3 wks cause he lets suppose to be our friends run the show! and then they( our suppose to be friends) and my husband act like I don't even exsist when we went fishing! I know This is a problem with my husband and i we need to work out , but the deal with our friends is Sat. night they always claimed their kids were better then anyone else ! and they used to never be like that and then their oldest son started putting my oldest son down etc. Well naturally I said something and They didn't care for it! What i said was just remember there is always going to be someone bigger and tougher out there! I just thought these guys were different but thats what I get for thinking!Any hoot! I know I have to work this out with my DH I realize that but to me i get the impression every time I bring this up he blows me off. And tells me I am making something out of nothing! I don't know maybe he is right?  I was always told it takes communication to make a realtionship work on both parts! This reminds me of  the Abuse cycle , for a while there everything seems fine and dandy,then it starts to come back in full force all over again. And at times stronger then before. Well I realieved my fustration so now guess i will go for a bit and check back in later! thanks for listening!!

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MAMAW...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 8:53 AM WHAT U NEED TO DO IS SIT HIM DOWN AND TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM HOW U FEEL .. MY MAN DOES THE SAME SHIT .. NO OFFENSE WITH THE CURSING .. BUT HE DOES AND IT PISSES ME OFF .. LIKE WHEN HIS FRIENDS ARE AROUND I DO NOT EXSIST .. HE GOES OUT WITH THEM AND ALL THAT AND WHEN I ASK HIM TO GO OUT .. HE DON'T EVER WANNA GO .. GIRL PLEASE .. I AM TELLIN U IT WILL GET UGLY .. CAUSE IT DID FOR ME AND MINE .. LIKE I GOT SOO PISSED ONE DAY WE WERE TALKIN ABOUT IT AND HE IS LIKE WELL THOSE ARE MY "NIGGAS" AND I GREW UP WITH THEM SO I'M GONNA RIDE OR DIE WITH THEM .. WHEN THEY CALL ME IMMA "DIP" WITH THEM .. THAT IS WHAT HE SAID .. GIRL I TOOK HIS $200 PAIR OF JEANS (I TOOK LIKE 5 OF THEM) AND  I TOOK HIS $400 SHOES AND THREW THEM IN THE GARBAGE (OR SO HE THOUGHT CAUSE I JUS HID THEM AROUND THE HOUSE) THEN HE LITERALLY THREW MY SHIT IN THE HALLYWAY .. CAUSE IN NYC WE LIVE IN AN APARTMENT BUILDING .. GIRL IT GOT CRAZY .. ALL BECAUSE I WANTED TO SPEND TIME WITH HIM AND HE ALWAYS WANNA BE AROUND HIS WACK ASS FRIENDS ... BUT BEFORE IT GETS OUTTA HAND TALK TO HIM ... CAUSE INSTEAD OF TALKIN THAT DAY .. I WAS SOOOOO PISSED GIRL I PUNCHED HIM IN THE FACE .. HE SMACKED ME .. IT GOT CRAZY .. YESS .. AND AS U CAN TELL I AM A FIGHTER ... I WILL FIST FIGHT HIM CAUSE I KNOW HOW TO FIST FIGHT .. BUT THE AVERAGE FEMALE DOESN'T ... SO TRUST .. U JUS TALK ...

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evans...
Jun. 7, 2008 at 8:46 PM Yeah Communication works much better if the two parties are participating and thaks for venting that is what friends are there for.
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