Well, it seems like forever since I have posted anything. My laptop is still out being repaired and the PC at home is too difficult to use as it is set up. I just thought I would stop in with a quick update.

We have been on one heck of a roller coaster ride with my Dad. As many know he fell and broke his hip a little more than a week (?) ago. He had surgery to place a metal rod and pins so it will heal. The anesthesia took a few days to get out of his system, during which time he was very agitated to the point of violent .. they had to tie his arms to keep him from pulling out IV's and hitting the help!! That finally wore off and he seemed ok.

Then he was moved to a rehab, where they felt it best to load him up with adavan than to deal with him. This, combined with percoset, caused him to hallucinate. He was handing me imaginary tissues, a baggie, and a flower!!!

He was at the rehab for about 2 day, whent hey called  to say they were transporting him to the ER, he hadn't gone to the bathroom for a long time and when he finally did he had "blood in his stools", something they were not prepared to handle. When we got to the ER he was laying in a bed all by himself, o his side,  moaning as if in pain, trying his best to climb over the bed rail. He was pulling at his blankets and tubes hooked to him. I got hiim turned around, but his blanket got disturbed it was then that I learned that the "blood in his stool" was a big understatement ... I also learned that the ER nurses are virtually clueless!

I went to the nurses station and said "Is he ok? Because he is covered in blood!" .. "He is?" they replied  .... ???? HELLO!! So in they go to clean him up, they are moving him all around, my Dad moaning out in pain .. they say "what's wrong" .. I yell in ... "He just had hip surgery!!!" .... "He did?" ... OMG!!!!! Yes he had it here a week ago! Why do they not know this? Computers? Records? Do they not exist??

Long story made shorter. He was moved to ICU, had 2 colonoscopy's and  2 endoscopy's,  they found the source of the bleeding but could not get to it with their limited equipment, so sent him to Beth Isreal in Boston yesterday. The surgeon there went in, found two ulcers high up in the bowels, cauterized them and hopefully that will stop his troubles.

Unfortunately, surgery means anesthesia .. anesthesia means more mental instability for poor Dad. My brother just called and said he had talked with the doctor and they have had to restrain my Dad again.

It has been a rough couple of weeks!

My brother, starts chemo at the end of the week. We finally went to see him yesterday, he looked pretty good despite the wheezing and coughing.

I can't wait until vacation


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Jun. 2, 2008 at 9:46 AM Oh my,  those trips to the ER with the eldery.  Been there.  And if one of those Dr.s dare tell you,  "Oh he's just old".  Slap the pee out of them.  That happens here  in this little town and the dr.s here just say "they are old",  like they don't matter.  Keep on them to keep him as healthy as possible.  We owe our parents our lives and it's the least we can do for them before they leave us in this world alone.  Prayers for you and all your family.  Miss you Mel.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:06 AM

Sometimes I wonder how some of the nurses like that are nurses they act so stupid. Sorry to hear all your going through, I will  Pray all is better. God bless

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:35 AM

Wow, you have been through the ringer! I will definitely pray for both, and for you!!!!!!!! Sometimes life can be sooooooooooooo hard, so darn hard!  But, I'm here for ya if you need an ear, and for prayers!!!!!!!

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:30 PM Oh ((((BIG HUGS))))) hon. Many prayers. I'm asking your Guardian Angel to wrap her wings a bit tighter around you. . .hang in there.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 2:48 PM Oh that's awful, I'm so sorry for you and your dad, it's horrible what some hospitals do and then there are those that are wonderful.  I would def call the adminastrators office and let them know about the lack of communication in their facility, hopefully they will do better with the next patents. 

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 9:18 PM Huge hugs.   I'm so sorry you have to go through this.  What a nightmare.  Call me when you have time.  We're praying for all of you!

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 1:29 AM

I wish I could be there to give you PHYSICAL hugs.  I, too, know what it's like to deal with the 'elderly' because my dad is 87 & not exactly in the best of health, although, he still lives at home...walks his farm, etc.  It's sad when you know there's not too much you can do for them & you have to either be there to be their eyes, ears, voice, etc.

Hugs to you & lots of prayers.

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Jun. 5, 2008 at 6:45 PM

Sorry to hear about these troubles.  I hope he did okay with the procedure.  Some times a change in medication when they do anesthia can help with agitation.

I hope things go well with your brother's chemo.  Is he out of rehab?

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