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I posted this in one of my groups but thought I would share it here too.

Sorry this is a bit long. I had to do something really hard this morning, and while I know deep down I did the right thing, I still feel torn and worried. Please bear with me....

Some background: A man that rents a room in the house next door to me is a sex offender. His crime was on a child. I was shocked when I found this out in a Family Watch Dog email alert as, although it is coincidental he moved in over there, he used to work with my husband at his old job years ago. When he moved in we let him to come over to our house and were very kind to him. He told us he was going through a divorce and had lost his job. We felt bad for him.

After I found out he was a pedophile, I was sick. Doug gently told him that we knew he was a sex offender so he wouldnt expect to come into our house anymore...he tried to hand Doug some BS about dating a 16 yo who he thought was an 18 yo, but that was not his crime and I paid to see his police record, so I know (Doug actually believed him at first!). He continued to be polite and nice though when he saw us, so we did as well.

Although I generally believe pedophiles cannot be fully rehabbed, I am also a Christian and believe God can work in everyone. So, knowing my children are always safe with me, we have continued to be kind to him..say hi when we see him, allowed him to use my phone a couple times. Honestly, if he was not a child molester (or if  you didnt know), he is a nice man and good neighbor.

Other than it being technically a probation violation to even come to my door to ask for the phone or approach us to say hi when our kids are with us, I never considered reporting him for something like this.

But Saturday night, things took a different turn.

About 8PM, Norah and I were cleaning out the car and I heard his voice. It was an odd tone...sweet, low, intimate sounding...as if he were maybe with a woman. I realized the sound was coming from the (very secluded) upper deck on the back of the house...just off of the part of the house he rents. I didnt look too closely because I honestly thought perhaps he was with a date. Then I heard a child's voice.

I looked and a little neighbor girl was up there with him...alone. She is maybe 5-7 years old. I am not sure exactly where she lives but I have seen her around. I couldn't hear everything they were saying, but I did hear him say "Just around that corner" a couple time....it concerned me he was directing her to his room. I went in and out of my house a few times (and so did Doug after I told him what I saw) and she was there 15 minutes that I knew of. As she was leaving, he said to her "You can come over here anytime you want."

I was sick. I almost called the police right there, but I stopped myself. I kept trying to tell myself that perhaps I was over reacting, but the rest of the weekend I was barely able to sleep. I had bad dreams about it all last night and I kept waking up and praying for God to show me what to do.

This morning, I went to yahoo and made a new email address (to try to stay at least somewhat anonymous) and then went to his sex offender page, clicked on "submit tip" and reported him. If he doesn't get arrested again, I don't want to deal with bad issues with a neighbor (he will probably be able to figure out it was us as we are the only neighbor who can see that deck clearly), but I could not get that child's sweet face out of my head. I had to do what I felt God was showing me to do.

Please pray that God gives me some peace about this and also pray for that little girl and even for this man. He needs it more than we do. Thanks for listening....I'll update if anything comes of this.


UPDATE: I still have not seen or heard any activity or lights on or anything...all day yesterday and this morning. I am hoping they picked him up. I'll keep watching and checking the county jail webpage to see if he is there. It doesn't list him yet, but it might take some time for someone to show up on the page once they are arrested. I am also constantly watching for that little girl.

Yesterday, we got a letter in the mail from the city saying the guy who owns that house has some code violations that he has not bothered to repair (which we knew) and he has requested more time to get them done (he hasnt touched that house in a year), so the city is having a public hearing and wants our opinion. It's a double edged sword really.

The owner and tenants have also asked us to lie about seeing work done and say that the owner lives there. We will not do that.

If they dont give him more time, the two men living there will have to move out. The sex offender would be gone, but truthfully, after what I saw last weekend, if he is not in jail already, I hate the idea of him moving on to another neighborhood. Almost makes me hope he does something to get himself caught (if he is not already) before they have to move. I know I am calling the police immediately if I see anything even remotely suspicious.

Anyway, I am praying that sick-a$$ perv in back in jail already anyway.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:09 AM wow...how sad. I will pray for you that you can find peace in all of this. and that the little girl is okay and nothing happened to her. I am sorry that you have to deal with this.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:12 AM Being a survivor myself I think you did the right thing in reporting him. You probably saved that child from being tormented the rest of her life. I too believe that pedophiles can't be rehabilitated. But anything is possible through the lord. So don't feel bad. God bless you

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:13 AM Oh God Bettie!!!  You did the right thing!!!  No other way about it Momma...Thank God for you!!

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:16 AM I hate the thought of getting someone in trouble if I misread what was happening but I think the point is that he knows he is not allowed to even be alone with children so he was violating his parole even if his intentions were innocent. It just was not a chance I felt I could take with a child. And I just couldnt think of any innocent reason to have that little girl on the deck. Thanks so much for your comments!

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:18 AM You absolutely did the right thing Bettie.  You and your family are in my prayers!  Love & hugs!

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:32 AM Thank you for doing that...

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:36 AM

Oh wow! Bettie, YOU DID THE RIGHT THING! Please don't even question, that man should know better. Do you know where the little girl lives? Her parents should know….atleast I think so.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:42 AM I dont know exactly which house, but I see her a lot at this end of the street. I thought of talking to her mother, but unfortuantely I doubt the mom would speak english even if I could fine her. If I see her or any other child anywhere near him, I will call the police immediately this time. I probably should have then.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 12:10 PM Oh my, I think you did the right thing!! I hope she was not harmed in that 15 minutes, I think her parents should know too, to make sure they are aware where she is, I hope you find peace with this, it was truely the right thing!! thank goodness for you !! How scary to live right next door like that! prayers with you

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 2:55 PM I'm quite sure she was not harmed as I was within hearing distance almost the whole time but who knows what he said to her. Maybe things to lure her back another time. I am keeping my eyes and ears open all the time.

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