My husband is driving me crazy! He was planning on reenlisting for 4 years and getting his bonus. But, he didn't make 2nd class so they told him he couldn't do 4 years and he couldn't get the bonus. They told him he could either extend for 18 months or reenlist for 2 years (no bonus). Now he's thinking about just getting out all together (his enlistment is up in september). I've been telling him to do the 2 years because we had a plan that I would go back to school and get my degree so we could be set up for him to get out. Now he's trying to change it up on me and its driving me crazy! I'm pretty sure all of this is stemming from him not being able to get the bonus. But WHO CARES! We don't have any money saved for him to get out in september, we have a 2 year old son and a baby girl due July 30th and he wants to get out and try and get a civilian job? I've explained to him how much harder it would be for us right now in the civilian world. I've explained to him that with an infant and a 2 year old we're going to need healthcare benefits and most of the time civilian jobs won't offer healthcare benefits until you've worked on the job for 6 months to a year. I've explained to him that both of us are going to have to work (I stay at home right now) and that childcare for an infant and a 2 year old is going to be ridiculously high. And yet he still cannot make up his mind as to what he wants to do. Of course he's also on deployment right now so we have to discuss all of this through email (not fun!). He says one thing in an email and then says something completely different like 2 sentences later. For example, first he says he wants to get out and find a government job. then 2 sentences later he says he wants to get his associates degree on the next deployment. I'm like wtf? are you getting out or are you stayin in? So I ask him that and he emails me back saying he's just been doing a lot of thinking and he doesn't want to tell me through email what he is thinking because he doesn't want me to take it the wrong way? I'm like ok....if you flat out tell me what you want to do then I don't have to sit here wondering, just give me a "i'm getting out" a "i'm extending for 18months" or a "I'm reenlisting for 2 years". Why the hell is that so complicated??? I love my husband to death but he is driving me absolutely crazy right now and worrying the hell outta me, I mean from now to september (if he wants to get out) is not enough time to be prepared to get out. Until the navy told him he wasn't gonna get a bonus cuz he didn't make 2nd class he was all set to reenlist and our plans were all set to work out, now all the sudden no bonus so now his ideas change. I can't take too much more of this stress he's putting on me.....Why do men have to be so confusing!!!!

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:02 PM ok yea he is confused. i guess its alot to think about for him and alot to deal with you know. but i stil think alex is way more slow then terrance. lol! he was so nice to be like i dont want u to leave me im so stressed im so sorry. im like wtf are u talking about. anyway maybe this time girl u gonna have to just wait until they get home you know. i feel like this is something he wants to take his time and decide since hes the one who take care of you guys you know. also he did just find out like last week so i say give him a min. its a big decision that he has to make. at least he's thinking about it and trying t make the best choice for you guys instead of rushing it. because it could be possible for him to get a pretty god job but hes gonna have to be on his game for real when he gets back. like job interviwes resumes and u can help him if its forreal what he wants to do. but i think the day he gets home he needs to give u an answer. cuz i would feel kinda scared and uneady not knowing whats going to happen in the future. just try to give hiim a lil time hes probaly just overwhelemed.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:05 PM Why not extend or reenlist and try to pick up 2nd and then reenlist?

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 2:53 PM he finally made something clear....he explains things in circles way too much! He's going to extend for 18months and try again to make 2nd thank god!

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