Ok, so I'm a little late...she's 14 lmao! But she's been opening up to me a lot more lately, so I took full advantage of that situation. I wanted to know if she was sexually active yet...she never did answer that question due to a huge case of embarassment. But I explained to her how this mom is way too young to be a grandma before I'm 50 (I'm 38 now) LOL. I told her that if she was active, she needed birth control. OMG, she's really mortified at this point! But she did ask me what the doctor would do at the first visit, so I told her. Again, she was mortified. LOL. Teens! But in the end, I think she was glad we had that talk and we bonded a little more.

Her not answering my question about whether she was or wasn't sexually active bothered me, but she told me it was SOOO embarassing to be talking about this with her mother! I said, "Well, I understand but it's better to be safe than sorry. You have your whole life ahead of you to have kids. Let's make sure you don't have them for at least 10 more years."

It was a very serious talk, though, but with a little humor,which helped a lot. She's been very open with me lately which is something so new to me. For the last 2 or 3 years, she just shut me out. She told me over the weekend that she has experimented with alcohol, quite often apparently! I wasn't super shocked...I started drinking when I was 15. It was all downhill after that lol.

 

 

So I laid down the law with it because I don't want her heading in that direction. It's ok to experiment...it's not ok to drink anytime you get the chance, especially when you are only 14 years old!

I feel like we are getting a little closer each day. I want her to know that it's ok to talk about things with me. That's what I am here for. Yes, I do a lot of preaching and she doesn't like it. But I'm her mom...that's my job! And I will do it until the day I die, I am sure! LMAO!

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dstei...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:13 AM I'm glad your daughter can talk to you even if it is somewhat uncomfortable.  She'll open up more as she realizes you're not gonna freak out on her.  My mom and I couldn't say BOO to each other - it was lonely.  My teen daughter and I have a very close relationship that I'm very thankful for.  Keep up the good work, momma!

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illin...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:29 AM

dsteiner23, I was the same way with my mother, so I dont' want my daughter to feel that way.

 Thanks for the encouragement! 

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Yummy...
Sep. 19, 2008 at 12:34 PM

I think that is great you were able to talk. I wish my sd was more opened. My ss and I talk like this. I feel great after it to. You did a wonderful thing. Hope it keeps going. Good Luck.

way to go

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