So yesterday I had a pretty shameful/enlightening moment. My Mother thoughtfully took Wynter and I out to lunch at a chic  Italian restaurant in this upscale Suburban hell of an outdoor shopping mall close to my house. Despite the fact that I fed Munchkin right before going to said restaurant, she proceeded to get ravenously hungry right as our entrees arrived. I immediately busted out my privacy blanket and was about to feed her when I noticed a table of young men sitting next to us. A few frat boys kept glancing nervously over at me as I fumbled with my nursing bra awkwardly under the blanket. The tension was thick enough to cut with a butter knife. I, foolishly, assumed it was I who was making these patrons uncomfortable and took Wynter into the bathroom as there was nary a private corner where I could sit comfortably to be found. After 15 minutes of trying to feed my baby in a hot, sweaty handicapped bathroom stall while sitting on an (ew!) public toilet I gave up and went out to the car.


 In retrospect, it was I who was the idiot. Who gives a shit if I make some U of MN C-students uncomfortable while they dine courtesy of their parent's credit cards? The sad fact is: I do. And I need to get over it. I have yet to master the art of "discretely" breastfeeding so I think I need to purchase a better privacy wrap (maybe this one: as I REFUSE to feed my child in s public restroom again. 

I am not even going to get started on how screwed up it is that a teenage girl can prance around the mall in a tube top with her thong showing (a beautiful sight I saw on that very day) and I feel the need to be "modest" while doing one of the most natural things possible: FEEDING A BABY. 


Holy crap... am I morphing into the breastfeeding militia? 

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:45 AM

You're not a member of the breast-feeding militia.  You're a member of the "Bite me, I need to feed my child" militia.  And don't worry, around the point that you master the art of discretely feeding your child, she'll figure out how to yank the blankie off your shoulder, leading to all sorts of fun Peek-A-Boob moments.

 If anybody does accuse you of making them uncomfortable, just mention the possibility that their moms breast-fed them.  That generally unnerves them enough that they run away.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:58 AM Don't let anyone make you feel bad about feeding your baby. They are enjoying their food and your child should too. I had no modesty when feeding my 2nd child and will have none with my third who will be here in a few months. I was lucky and had my 1st in Italy where they have no shame and after the first month or two I picked up on having no shame either. Hang in there

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:59 AM Yeah...moments like those remind me why I want to move to Europe PRONTO

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Jun. 11, 2008 at 1:03 AM I remember bfing Theo when he was about 3 months old in the mall, he couldn't wait for me to get to one of the nursing rooms we had so I sat down on the bench and kinda pulled the stroller in front of us, I remember it being the most difficult, time I nursed him, my mom came up and asked why I was all flushed and she said it was ok,  i instantly felt better, I never had an issue bfing, I think  there is still a post on my page about my poor grandfather, you should read it if you get a chance.  It will get better!  I promise

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Jun. 18, 2008 at 3:08 PM I definitely agree with you and know that I will have rude comments and stares to look forward to when I take my baby out in public and need to BF. Its sad that mothers have been reduced to feeding their children in a smelly dirty place that is desginated for taking a shit. Its doesnt make sense. But I think all of us BFing mom need to stay strong and keep doing it in public. Hopefully someday people will see its the normal thing to do.

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Jun. 18, 2008 at 6:03 PM

Good for you!  And welcome to the breastfeeding militia =) 

Don't worry: it gets easier!  Soon, you will be a pro and walk around the mall with a baby attached to your boob and nobody will even know.

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Jun. 25, 2008 at 1:41 PM I hope you are feeling more comfortable about BF in public. It takes some getting use to. If more Mom's did it in public it would be common place. My daughter couldn't stand anything touching her head when I fed her. I found some wonderful shirts from Motherwear and we were very discrete. I think the nursing covers draw more attention to what you are doing. I had to fly one time with my daughter when she was about 6 months old. She spent the entire flight attached to me. I was getting embarrassed because I was seated next to a stranger. He was a very nice man and told me at the end of the flight that he preferred a nursing mom. Nursing babies were quiet babies.

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