I know that for most this is kind of old news.  But I've really been thinking about this story lately and my husband and I just recently discussed it.  I don't seem to understand why this story is such a big deal. 

First of all, the "man" that is pregnant isn't really a man.  Yes his name is Thomas and on the outside he looks like a man.  But he was really born a she.  He like many other Americans has gone through the medical process of appearing more like a man.  But at the end of the day he still has a vagina!  I'm not saying it's wrong to consider Thomas a man and call him Sir or anything like that.  I'm just saying that it shouldn't be addressed as a man is pregnant.  But that's not what bothers me about all of this.

What bothers me about Thomas being pregnant is the fact that so many Americans are so pissed and disgusted over all of this.  I'm sorry but just because years ago Thomas decided that he wanted to live life as a man and not as the woman doesn't mean that he isn't entitled to having a family!  I get sick of hearing people say that Trans-genders, Gays, Lesbians and anyone else that isn't "normal" won't make good parents.  I know of plenty of heterosexual people that are the worse fucking parents in America.  There are thousands of children right now sitting in Foster Care or Group Homes because their straight parents beat them, neglected them, sexual abused them or committed some kind of action that caused authorities to step in and remove the child(ren) from that home.  So just being gay or a transgender doesn't automatically make you a bad parent. 

I think in Thomas' case he was very smart in keeping his female organs otherwise he probably would have never been able to have a child.  So many couples that are gay or lesbian can't adopt children because of their life style.  But many times I've heard of couples adopting children that they abuse or neglect.  That makes so much sense doesn't it? 

The other thing that bothers me is the people I've heard that have said "This is wrong because what am I suppose to tell my child?"  Umm maybe the truth.  Ok so if your four year old is walking down the street and notices a man that is pregnant, I'm sure you can think of something to tell your child.  If my daughter was a young age and saw something like this I'd probably tell her that the man wasn't a man it was a girl that looked like a man.  But if my daughter was older I'd tell her the truth.  Why hide it from her?  We live in a world now where women date other women, and men date other men and some women make changes to themselves to be a man and visa versa.  I'm not going to hide my child from that because in my opinion there is nothing wrong with it.  I firmly believe that people are born like this.  I don't think gay men wake up one day and say "I'm just going to try this gay thing out".  No I think that there is some kind of medical mix-up in their brain that causes them to be attracted to other men or other women.  I just wish that the rest of the world would get that through their head. 

Well that's just my opinion.  I hope that people can leave others alone.  Thomas the pregnant man has no effect on my life.  So it shouldn't effect others...therefore Thomas, his wife and his expected child should be left alone to live their lives the way they see fit. 

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Fista...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:48 AM These are some great thoughts!  Glad you shared!

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sexyn...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:53 AM That's exactly how I feel about it too! The media has blown this thing WAAAY out of proportion. I don't see this much attention for any other lesbian couple that uses fertility treatments to get pregnant, because in the end, that's what they are, just another lesbian couple. Live and let live.

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J-M
Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:12 AM Bravo!  Gender identity (societal and cultural norms and mores for the roles, behaviors, and dress of men/boys and women/girls) and sex (reproductive organs) are two entirely different things. 

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_Tam_
Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:17 AM

Thank you for writing this journal!!  I wonder the same thing too.  If it's not directly affecting you, why worry about it?  They have just as much right to a happy family as the rest of us do.  To deny them that would be to deny them their pursuit of happiness that the Constitution claims they should have.  I am so glad you shared this journal today. 

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nurse...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:31 AM here here!  I totally agree. 

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gonef...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:45 AM one thing confuses me. obviously this person took a lot of male hormones to look more like a man. ok, so far I'm on track. but wouldn't this same person need to replace their female hormones to carry the pregnancy to term? would that not over the pregnancy make them look female again? what about breast tissue etc, all the changes a body goes through during pregnancy? think I will read up on it. intriguing

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Krist...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:49 AM

wouldn't this same person need to replace their female hormones to carry the pregnancy to term?

"his" body naturally produces the female hormones, the male hormones he took suppressed the female hormones. All he had to do was stop taking the male hormonal supplments and let his body's chemistry produce the naturally occuring female hormones.

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Krist...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:49 AM Great post!!!

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sexyn...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:50 AM He WAS taking hormones, but quit as soon as they decided to get pregnant. They had his OB on Oprah and she said that his pregnancy is completely normal (other than the obvious). He had double mastectomies, so he will not have breast issues because he, well, doesn't have breasts. But yes, he will start to look more feminine until he delivers and gets back on the testosterone.

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abesa17
Jun. 2, 2008 at 12:06 PM I completely agree. It doesn't matter to me what anyone else's sexual preference is. Whatever floats their boat.

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