My Little girl Meghan who is 9mths old is sleeping for a few hours, waking up- either having a long feeding or just snacking and going back to bed. But she does this radomly- some nights she will only wake up two times at most- other nights 4-5times...I am not worried about my sleep or hers- she just sleeps in the day if she needs to. My main concern is my husband- he's waking up every time he wakes up- even with his earplugs in and sleepmask on....He does'nt get Rem sleep untill hes been trying for half a hour. i on the other hand can pass out and sleep right away- guess I am that thired. Anyway I don't wake up that cranky- But he's been terrible latly....I need help...How do you get your little ones to sleep though the night...I've tried ceral and that seemed to make a difference for only a few nights then it was back the same way...I have noticed my little one does'nt want Me- Breast milk so much anymore i the day- and wants either a taste of my food- or her own babyfood more and more...But that being said she still gets in 5-7 feedings a day- and empys both or one side of the breast at each feeding and is not cranky after she done. Help.....

She also sleeps in the same room as us- can't be changed.

 UPDATE!!! SHE sleeps through the night- and it was'nt hard at all. She cried a little the frist night but we would'nt feed here and she fell alsleep on her own. Now she's slept though the night three days in the row. It took her three total days to do this- with her waking up wining a little- not getting what she wanted then just laying down and going to bed- somtimes daddy would put her on her belly- and rub her back and she would settle down and go to sleep. Buts shes officially sleeping through the nite- she goes down at 7am- without a fess- wakes up at 5am- to feed and sleeps till 7-8am.

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BusyB...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:51 AM I had this problem with my oldest and ended up having to start supplementing breastmilk with formula and then slowly weaned her to just formula, she slept through the nights after that, good luck!

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Sassy...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:21 AM oh i went though this honey and i am still going though it with them my doctor calls it night terrors and when they wake they just need a lil something to eat but will not eat much. and found  that they have a lil ulcer but it will go away sleep hell what the hell is that .. hubby can sleep though about anything but when son start oh my god hubby is awake i can nap but he has to work. i been looking fo ranwers for help as well too. but not sure if there is any out there. gl my thoughts are with you hun. you rbody is chargeing so your milk is too and she might not want it. try to get her lik einsure something for kids so she getting what she needs i di dthat once with jordan the doc told me it would help in the middle cause of all going on

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Dashi...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:32 PM

Dashiel was waking up hourly to nurse about 2 months ago. I stopped nursing in bed (we co-sleep) and moved the feedings to another room. Then I started making sure he was put back to sleep without nursing more and more each night until he started waking less. It really did happen quickly, too. Along with starting a bedtime routine earlier in the night, taking the food out of the bed, and the bedroom, taught him to stop waking up to nurse every hour or so.

Then I was still feeding him twice a night, until I slowly stopped nursing the 2nd time in the night and only would do it before bed, once in the middle of the night, and right when he wakes up 
Some nights he only wakes up the once and is fed and sleeps until he's up for the day.  Other times we put him right back to sleep and he isn't nursed at all in the middle of the night. So I've very slowly, and with no particular routine or pattern, started decreasing the amount he is nursed at night, and his sleeping is slowly getting better. 

Some nights he still wakes up 3 or 4 times, but that is very rare lately. I'd say usually twice but sometimes once and sometimes 3 times, lol. The point is, there are more and more nights where he only wakes once, and sometimes that's after sleeping 7 straight hours, which I've heard is called sleeping through the night. I don't know.

WHOAH, sorry that got really long, but I'm going through the same thing.
I just thought I'd throw in the fact that, although for different reasons, I've started supplementing him with formula  to about 50/50 with nursing, not including the solids he gets. I don't know if that has anything to do with sleep or not. It could be a coincidence. But it might not be. 

Ok, I'll stop now.

 

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jya1124
Jun. 11, 2008 at 8:32 PM

I am going through the same thing with my 8 month old...we cosleep with her as well...it was hard for my hubby too..I am pretty into the whole attachment parenting style, so I don't know what to do. I have heard through my best friend who did the "Ferber" method with her 4 month old that it was very effective....I guess the idea is that you put them in their own room, and when they cry you let them for 3-5 minutes, and then check on them without turning on the light and not picking them up...basically you just put your hand on them and tell them that they are okay, and that it is bedtime, blah blah blah...and then leave and do it again at like 5-7 minutes if they are still crying...I just can't bring myself to do it...she has been in our bed with us since she was born...I think I am going to start by putting her in her crib for naps, and weening her off the food at night by putting her pacifier in her mouth and trying to stretch out the time periods that she eats....good luck!! Let me know how it goes!!

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MR777
Jun. 12, 2008 at 10:20 AM I try not to co-sleep but sometimes end up doing it w/our 1mo. old! I don't breastfeed anymore, but, you can get them onto a schedule. And I've heard it usually takes just 3 days-if you stick w/the routine and then of course sticking w/it after those 3 days... The 3 days is of the crying you'll have to endure..... I know here our limit is 20min. of crying... I try not to let her cry that much, but there are times I cannot help it as I have two toddlers to take care of as well! I know I swaddle my little one and I try to give her last feeding at around 9pm and get her to sleep by 10. Then she usually sleeps until around 2:45/3am. And we usually are up until 5am then... But, I think the main thing is a consistant routine...... Hope this helps! I'm not sure it has, but I've also read that around 9mo. or so that they just wake up because they are thinking of the crawling or walking that they just soo want to do!

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Mommy...
Jun. 12, 2008 at 11:13 PM

I posted a great article on this subject not too long ago, if you are interested:

 

http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/737385/baby_doesn_t_sleep_through_the_night

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april...
Jun. 12, 2008 at 11:22 PM UPDATE!!! SHE sleeps through the night- and it was'nt hard at all. She cried a little the frist night but we would'nt feed here and she fell alsleep on her own. Now she's slept though the night three days in the row. It took her three total days to do this- with her waking up wining a little- not getting what she wanted then just laying down and going to bed- somtimes daddy would put her on her belly- and rub her back and she would settle down and go to sleep. Buts shes officially sleeping through the nite- she goes down at 7am- without a fess- wakes up at 5am- to feed and sleeps till 7-8am.

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music...
Jun. 20, 2008 at 11:44 AM

All new Moms -   This works!  In watching an animal program about lions. They all look alike right? How does the cub know who is his Mom?  From her scentAsk any child and they will tell you, they remember the way their Mom smelled.  Realizing this, I decided to try it. That night after I rocked my baby to sleep, I placed her in the crib. I took my pajama shirt off and layed it across my daughter.  She slept all night long from then on. It was amazing. Needless to say, I NEVER got that pj shirt back. LOL And that shirt became her "blankie".  My daughter, Ashley will be 21 in July, and what's left of the "blankie" remains in the top drawer of her dresser today.

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jerem...
Jun. 25, 2008 at 12:18 PM

it sounds like she may want more food during the day and she will slack off at night. My son is 15 mo. and i still breastfeed him, about 4 times during the day, and then the night time- usually early morning. but when he was 5-6 months i started giving him food about 2x a day, lunch and dinner. you know little by little but he had reflux( so i had to early) and you know what i am glad, he thrived and the nightime feeding definitely lessened. she is probably telling you she needs more.  another thing, is my son has sharing sleep with us since he was born, I guess since you already have the her in a crib, i would not change it now, but we( all three) have never really totally woke up to feed him, thats the blessing with that. i would try to start to feed her more food on a regular basis and she will cut down at night. Dont worry, she will still have the best seat with you, my son still loves to nurse and it not ready to give up, but little by little he slacks as he gets interested in other things.

 

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saras...
Jun. 25, 2008 at 7:41 PM At 9 months, she should be sleeping through the night, and should be getting some solid foods.  Maybe she just knows if she wakes up, she can get a little company and mommy time by fussing.  Try this - when she wakes at night, don't pick her up or feed her.  Just re-assure her that mommy is still nearby.  You'll want to start this on a weekend when your husband doesn't have to work the next day.  And even if she has to sleep in the same room, at least try getting her into a different bed.  I am a light sleeper, if DH wakes up, I wake up.  She might just be a really light sleeper and sounds from others in the room are waking her. 

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