Okay so how do I handle this? It is becoming more and more of a PITA for me. I don't ever throw my beliefs or lack there of at anyone. Let me say that first. If you want to do that, I will delete that comment. I don't need it.

I have been having this bad feeling lately and my husband said that he has been feeling that way too. Like God is standing behind him and telling him to go down another path. Then asked me what I thought about that. Ummm... he knows what I think so all I said was that he didn't want to know what I thought about that.

I am getting very upset today and I am ready to just throw in the towel and give up. Why is it that people have to through religion at me and say that it is God's will that this or that happens. I don't believe that shit! I control what I do, not some invisable being that may or may not exist. I went to CCD when I was little, I was taught in the religious ways until I was old enough to think for myself.

I am just beyond frustrated with life right now. If there is a God, where the hell are you to help me out, to prove that you exist, where are you? Why are you making me want to be alone? I don't want to be around people. But around people is where I continue to be. Why are you stressing my marriage? Do you want us apart? Tell me!!!

Why do I have to deal with all of this shit? This is such bullshit!

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:09 PM

I'm sorry you are feeling this way.

I can relate somewhat. My hubby was raised Lutheran and was never really "into" it. He is way too logical to be a Christian. The words "Oh come on! That is the stupidest thing I have ever heard." came out of him quite often when religion was brought up. Once we found out that we were expecting our first child, we took a long hard look at where we were going for church. We switched to Unitarian. My hubby's family was not happy!

I was fortunate though to have a  husband that really understands and listens to what I want. We repect each other no matter what.

Good luck!! 

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:11 PM        Sometimes you just need a hug to go on...

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:13 PM

Why is it that people have to through religion at me and say that it is God's will that this or that happens

I believe it is simply how they cope with things psychologically,the idea that there is a master plan at work gives them solace in their time of difficulty.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:17 PM Wow, Annette!!  I am sorry that you and your husband are having a hard time.  You can call me/ talk to me any time.  I wish I could give you a big hug...

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:23 PM

Annette...Please keep in mind that I'm not the person to throw religion in any one's face.  I'm a firm believer in every person finding out what works best for them...  But you just stated " I control what I do, not some invisible being that may or may not exist."  If that is true, then He or whatever, would have nothing to do with any outcome in your life.  You need some chamomile tea, a hot bath and a good book!  Big Hugs your way!


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Jun. 2, 2008 at 8:44 PM


Great point....Find peace in knowing that their is a reason for everything..Life can be really tough but only you could get yourself back on track...And when you get the strength to move mountains, because you will...LOOK STRAIGHT TO THE SKY AND SAY ..................THANK YOU...........

Unfortunately, I had a bit of a detachment myself at a point in my life, actually the lowest anyone could image. And with the love that I found deep down inside for myself, I managed  to move forward , which was without a doubt the works of someone alot greater than me....HUGS TO YOU SUNSHINE : )

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 8:39 AM


 Find peace in knowing that their is a reason for everything.


Actually I find  peace in knowing that life is random and the only "reason"  for things happening does not go beyond cause and effect.

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Jun. 4, 2008 at 1:41 PM

My hubby went through a christian phase too.   For a little while I thought I was losing him to Jesus.

I told him, if you want to take our son to church, go ahead...  BUT I WILL NOT GO WITH YOU.  

And whats more is-  when he comes home from church and says 'mommy, why don't you go to church with us?'.....  i'm going to look him in the eye and say 'BECAUSE MOMMY DOESN'T BELIEVE IN THAT BULLSHIT.'

.......................................................anyway, lately my husband has nothing but BAD things to say about Christians.... so i'm pretty sure he's outgrown that 'phase' 

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Jun. 4, 2008 at 2:10 PM Sweetie I am very religious - my hubby is ANTI religion.... it is very interesting in my house but I NEVER bring it up, he does and then fights with me :)  It will be ok - I would say I will pray for you, but - nevermind :)  LOL (so just trying to make you laugh)

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