My Teeangaer was looking at sexy sites on the net! What do I do? He is my oldest (14) and we have talked about sex. And he has done sex ED in school and they have a program there too! We are always involved in that as much as everything else. OMGosh I am freakin out! He was looking at different celebs NAKED and played a game that took their bra's off! OH MY! I am going to lose my heard. I dont know how to feel! YIKES! HELP!

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Faery...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:53 PM You can set the internet settings where he/she can't view those sites.

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Kay300
Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:54 PM I'd feel happy thats he a 'normal Young Man'...... at least you know he won't be gay....  --  This is the age when that starts happening.......  there's not much you can do about it..... it would be best for your husband to handle this situation if your married........  Be careful so you don't harm him mentally for the future.... he's curious.... nothing wrong with that........... 

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vsrillo
Jun. 2, 2008 at 1:58 PM Talk to him about it.  Tell him how it makes you feel as a parent. Let him know it is healthy to be curious, but to engage in this activity, especially at a young age, teaches him to disrespect women.  Let this be a lesson for you and his father to discuss how to view women as beautiful but not lust after. Show him what charateristics are honorable, other than focusing on outward appearances.

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NannyB.
Jun. 2, 2008 at 2:00 PM Put the parental blocks on your computer, and if necessary, place the computer where it is out in full view of the family at all times.  I think one of the big dangers of teaching sex education in the schools is that it stirs up way too much interest in the stuff you are describing.  Also, there are many excellent books to help with instructing our young people about the hazards of sexual activity.  In addition to the sexually transmitted diseases which are rampant, there is also much emotional and mental harm that results.  That's the part nobody talks much about.  I think you have every reason to be concerned.

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athen...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 2:01 PM

He's a boy and this is a part of growing up. You might not like it, but he's going to look either at home or other places.  If you have a problem with it, you CAN block the sites, but he's more than likely just going to get his hands on videos, or magazines.  Personally, I think that you should tell him that if he wants to do that he needs to get his own PC so it doesn't leave links that the younger kids can get to. Just my opinion. Whatever you choose to do I'm sure will be the right choice for your situation and kids.

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chery...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 2:13 PM The biggist mistake you could make would be to not talk to him.

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dellw...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 2:19 PM Wow I cant top those answers , he is just being a young man.

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gusti...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 2:22 PM but the parental locks on the cable box and the internet and good luck

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