Some of you know this, and some don't but my husband and I after 18 years of marriage are filing for divorce.  Last July he told me he was done and wanted a divorce and said he fell out of love with me the last couple of years.  He says he tried to get me to change, tried to tell me this and my comment to him was well you must not have been telling me in a way I could understand because I had no idea it was coming.  I had to have emergency gall bladder surgery and he did not even come to the hospital to see if I lived or died.  He called me twice while in the hospital to bitch and complain.  This has made my mind completely up that I cannot make him love me nor do I know him anymore and I don't enjoy spending time with him.  So I have started the paperwork to file for divorce.  I was devastated and now I am moving forward with a positive outlook in life.  However, all of "our friends"  don't want to hang with us anymore so I need to find some friends of my own.  I don't mind sitting at home, but man I need to get out sometimes.  If you have a suggestion on what I can do to keep my self sane please let me know as soon as possible.  Thank you for all of your support.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 4:35 PM i am so sorry you are going through this that sux that he didnt even care enough to come and check on you well there are dating sites such as  eharmey that help find friends!

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 4:36 PM Oh how awfully sad.  I would suggest joining a book club and /or getting involved at the gym.. I have a great group of ladies that I swim with at the local YMCA..we have a lot of fun and they are not a group of women I would have ever run into unless I had joined the Y.  Cafe mom is a great group of ladies, but since it'snatiowide, you are lucky to find someone close by.  Have you typed in search for mom's in your city? try that...

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