Ok, so I'll be the first to admit that I've kinda slacked off for a few days from the house cleaning.  I've kept it straightened (mostly, anyway), but both my kids are dealing with upper respiratory infections, and I've had to work this week too.  My SO, who has been home for a week now from NJ, has ADD, so when he's stuck at home (like he has been), he's Mr. Go-getter.  He can't just sit still and chill - NO!  He's always gotta do something

I understand this, I'm not complaining about this.  In fact, a part of me is GRATEFUL that he's home because a LOT more stuff is getting done around here than when he works.  What I am complaining about is that not everyone has ADD - I don't, and while he may have the energy needed to keep going, I DON'T!  I was up ALL FREAKING NIGHT because Aidan was coughing real bad, and then I got up at 7 this morning to be at work by 9.  In the 3.5 hours that I worked today (I work the Kid Zone at Gold's Gym), there were 5 dirty diapers, 1 accident, 4 kids going to timeout, and the rest (all 27 of them) were screaming and trying to kill each other.  (Ok, I'm exaggerating...a LITTLE!!!)  I got home around 1, expecting to be able to just catch my breath (and maybe my 2nd wind) before I had to get up and go again, but NO!  My SO starts running his to-do list for me, expecting me to start taking care of shit IMMEDIATELY!!!!

So I get a little stressed out, which he sensed, so we talk about it, and I tell him that I need time to just unwind for a little bit before tackling all this stuff.  No sooner had we finished our "conversation", he's telling me that I've had ample time to sit and chill (umm...a whole 5 f***ing minutes!!!) and that the house is a wreck and he doesn't want to be the only one cleaning it!  So, ok, fine...what the fuck ever!  I take care of the dishes and the laundry.  I have a load in the dryer now, one in the washer.  I just finished folding/hanging.putting away 2 loads of clothes, and he comes downstairs, telling me that "when I feel like it, I need to get off my ass and do something!"  Excuse me??????  WTF?!?!  He's not the one who was up all night!  He's not the one who had to get up early to go deal with 30 kids under the age of 5!  Who the fuck does he think he is ORDERING me around?

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:31 PM Oh yeah. I'd be super pissed too. Not to mention that you're exhausted after the night you had, so that just makes you even more emotional, and more stressed. What an ass. If I were you, I'd wake his ass up tonight if one of boys wakes up, make him stay with them, and then if he has to work tomorrow, when he gets home start telling him what needs to be done right then and there. Don't give him time to rest. And if you for one second catch him sitting down, I'd say something along the lines he said to you. But I can be vindictive sometimes.

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