I know my kids are to young right now to really worry about this but what happens when they hit that dreaded teenagers years when you really have to lay the law down. I know as a teenager I was wild everything my parents said not to do I tried it just because so now that I have my own kids I don't wanna push it to hard... I want them to mind but I don't want to be to strick with them because then they might just go over board when they do get freedom. I don't want them just to do whatever that want either so where is the line drawn?  Do you tell your kids if they ask what you were like as a teenager? I don't lie to my kids so far I try to tell them the truth as they understand. I even told them where babies come from for real not the stork. I had a book and showed them. I know I might have but I want them to learn from me and not someone else and in today's world they learn stuff faster than what I did. I really did a lot of stuff that I am not proud of and I don't really wanna say yes mommy smoked weed but you can't do it. What do I do??? HELP PLEASE!!!! I know I have awhile as my oldest is only 6 but it goes so fast pretty soon he'll be 16.   And I don't know about where you live but I heard that in some schools they give condoms to 5th graders and tell them to practice safe sex. I don't want anyone else tell my child it's ok to have sex as long as you use a condom. The only safe sex is waiting till you are married. I know I didn't do that but I regret it now... plus I got pregnant too practicing safe sex so-what do you think about this is ok to give 5th graders condoms?

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 5:51 PM

As far as giving a 5th grader condoms - well for us here it's not going to happen. I don't know about other areas, but here - it's not a concern and no I'm not just "blind". lol I just know my area and that's one thing that is not needed here.

 I too tell my children the truth. I feel there's no other way.

As for the weed...I have NO idea what to tell you. I never have done it, my husband has never done it. I drop friends like they are on fire if they admit to doing it. I don't tolerate it. My kids know this as well. Do not even try it here. It's one thing we are very strict on and will not tolerate nor budge on. Dh is 44, I'm 32 and not a typical mom (rock concerts, tattoos, piercings, etc) so it's not as if I'm this goody girl. lol Far from it, but it's one thing I just do not tolerate and have never done and never will do.

 The teen years are a nightmare. My oldest is 13. Around 10 is when I see the abrupt attitude. My second child turned 10 in March and it was just days before this nice quiet girl was like a wild woman. *sigh* A few I know had easy teenage years with their kids, but more often than not - HANG ON!  Just think things through - try your best not to lash out. Be HONEST. I feel if you did do things that you regret in your life - tell them. Tell them why you regret it now. If you lie, I feel that they will somehow find out, then it will be even worse.


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Jun. 2, 2008 at 5:53 PM

well i have a 5th grade boy and they just had this class and my son already knew everything that they taught because i keep nothing from my children, but our school didnt hand them out as if to say its ok if you use this they actually stress that abstinence is key (they never said its ok as long as u  use a condom) they just demonstrated what a condom was and what it was for.

i didnt mind at all since i dont hide anything anyway but others didnt agree it all depends on the person, and i must add this is my 3rd shild to go thru this and none of them are wild or out of control or pregnant or daddy's. now my mother on the other hand was not educated and had me at 15 so idk.......

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 6:00 PM I just wanted to say I do not smoke weed now  I did as a teenager.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 6:03 PM I also wanted to say I know that they might not tell the kids here a condom go have sex that was just my words and I didn't want any confussion. Sorry

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 6:08 PM You know your own kids better than anyone, so you know what they respond to. My girl is 14 right now, and she still hates all that traditional teen-ager-y stuff, so there's no saying that for sure they'll all immediately turn in to he!!-raisers. So far, mine's not. Mind you there's still my boy, who's still only 9, so it could still happen!

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