My 19 yr old is being so self centered, it isn't funny. We've kicked him out because of the trouble he got into with the law. He was trying to steal gas for crying out loud! He has the big damned chip on his shoulder like everyone owes him something & no one owes him anything. My husband & I have bent over backwards for this kid, this after he's stole from us, both sets of grandparents have bent over backwards for him, after he'd stolen from my mom and charged some stuff to my in-laws credit card a few years ago. I'm sorry but I damned sure didn't raise him this way. My husband has always worked a full time job, sometimes 2, all of our married life & I worked up until I got sick in 2001. I stayed home with my kids while they little & didn't go back to work @ a public job until my daughter started kindergarten.

Yes, my husband & I have taken in Pasha & got custody of her. You would think he'd be proud of the fact that we're giving another child the same opportunities he had as he was growing up but Hell No! He doesn't like her simply because of her background & she's never done anything to him. He hasn't even given her a chance. Don't anyone dare say he's jealous because he's acted like this long before Pasha ever came into the picture.

I'm at the point I'm ready to tell him to get the hell over himself & become the man he's supposed to be or don't come back until he is.The only reason I haven't is because his truck is in my name & I know that if I tell him that, he won't make his payments & I sure don't need that on my credit. I'm so damned tired of his shit, it's not even funny. Yea, I've been saying that for a while now, but this time it's gone to far.

He's even went so far, last week, when he got into with his sister, he'd hit her trunk & dented it, then he denies it. No we didn't see him do it, but he's the only one that's been around that would do it. How do you tell your own flesh & blood that you don't want anything to do with him until he straightens his act up?

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ihave...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 6:13 PM sounds like time for tough love......

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dancer
Jun. 2, 2008 at 6:15 PM We had a nightmare living with us! He is a neighbors kid! I told hime to get the fuc* out of my house!! Him and his slut of a mom went back to Wisconsin!!! Thabk God!!! Don't come back loser!!!

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LoriaAnn
Jun. 2, 2008 at 6:17 PM

simple, you just tell him. tell him that if he thinks he's so damn grown and knows everything...if he's so damn smart...then why cant he make it on his own without taking from everyone around him? why does he need you so bad if he's so damn grown? tell him that there are people like me who moved out at the age of 16 with a baby in thier arms and never asked a thing of anyone....because i am grown. i did what i needed to do not only for me, but for another human being. if he thinks he's such a man then why could i do it and he cant?

if the truck is in your name, sell it. if you make a profit over what is still owed, keep it. if he causes chaos, have him arrested....and dont dare bail him out!

oh, and PLEASE tell him that i said to man the fuck up because no decent woman wants a worthless man!

*steps away from podium*

okay, i feel better....sorry, i just cant stand kids like that...and im only 23 myself!

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lanckn
Jun. 2, 2008 at 6:26 PM

I have to agree with the other posters. As hard as it may be - tough love maybe the only thing that will straighten him out.

 

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Broke...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 6:48 PM Hi Karen, haven't talked to you in a long time.  We both had problems with our sons, mine leaves for the Marines in a month.  Is that something he'd consider?  I think that would straighten his ass up.

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