!Meet our Household!

Mama and Lily with the funny face...mama chopped her hair

! Belly time for the first time since her second OHS!

(Mommys New Hair)

as i sit here and type this i have a sleeping baby on my chest and two children sitting in front of the TV watching Dora, quite for the first time today....I think I am losing hair from stress, everytime I brush my hair I have to clean it out afterwards from mass amounts of hair that wasn't there before hand....normal children are stressful enough...but add an autistic child, an asmahtic child and a heart child all together...what do you get? No sleep, tons of worries, stress and no quite! I can't remember the last time my head didn't hurt at all. I can't remember the last time I have eatten, breakfast, lunch AND dinner...most days it is a snack and dinner with lots to drink inbetween to keep myself from passing out. When you have next to no help it gets hard.

We have friends coming in town in about 2 weeks, my house is a mess....and you all are probably thinking...2 weeks..she should be able to get the house together in 2 weeks....yes...I should be able to...but that is before we add mishaps in between...such as a 2 year old drawing on the wall, carpet, his brother and himself....or that is before a 4 year old sticks his hand in the back of the toliet and then the next thing you hear is Uhh Ohh....that is before you realize that you have to have at least 3+ hours of sleep in order to function but even then you can barely keep your eyes open long enough to tell it is day or night outside. It takes all your energy just to tear a 2 and 4 year old off of eachother n the heat of another fight over who had the red lego first (while you try to explain that here is another red lego on the floor...the same one...but its not the one that the other has so lets not go there) You scream in frustration while the kids laugh at you. A shower is a luxery, just like eatting.

My husband wants to know why I can get nothing done around the house...he assumes I sit here all day...well right now I am...but I dont. Try doing laundry one handed with a baby in the other arm....or try loading the dishwasher while everyother object you load gets pulled out. Try to vacum when the next thing you see is popcorn all over the floor or cereal for that matter....you wonder why you even bother to exeret the energy to do these thing when the house just ends up a mess again......you thinki...I could have made myself something to eat instead of wasting my energy on cleaning seeing it didnt matter anyways because you have no proof of it 5 mins later....some days tears are your cheeks best friends and when others ask you whats wrong, you smile like a crazy lunatic and say...Nothing at all...with a crazy twisted...I am on the verge of losing it.....smile. And if you dont understand that smile...well I guess your kids have never driven you as insane as mine have. My husband tells me to spank them....Well I tell him spanking doesn't solve everything....I spank when I know I have to in cases of touching the stove while it is on...or grabbing a knife from the kitchen drawer.....or when the other trys to do bodily damage to the other....AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.....I hate having to say the same thing over and over like I never said it before...and when you say it for the 15th time with a little edge behind your voice, they look at you and go...Mommy why are you so mad....BLAH...I know I know...such is the life of a mother....and I know many would give anything to have the trials placed before them that I have....I try to say thank you to the Lord for my blessings, and count them and remember not all are so blessed...but it is hard when you turn around and a carton of eggs are all over the floor and a 2 year old is standing over them going UH OH...I clean up....I clean up...and grabs your clean kitchen towle and makes even more of a mess, slips in it, has it all over his diaper...and then runs before you can catch him on the carpet....needless to say, you have the kitchen, the carpet and the kid to clean.....you think to yourself...does this ever end? Some days I think it never will end...I look up at the heavens(or should I say celieing) and ask God if he is going to show me a sign of mercy today...when I hear nothing in return I swallow the reality pill and put on a couragous smile and continue forward watching the clock counting down the hours until bed time prayers. I just want to hear myself think from time to time.....Speaking of hear myself.....I no longer do...the boys are now fighting over who is going to turn the tv off because Dora is over....oh wonderful...they just started the who can smack eachother harder game...so this is where my blog ends....Lord be with us in the McLaughlin household!


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Jun. 2, 2008 at 8:00 PM

I heart.gif heart image by botevadesign U, you know that? Keep that sense of humor girl, it's the only way to stay sane!!!

Lily's lookin' good...!

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 9:27 PM WOW! You really do hit the nail on the head on how its like to be a TRUE stay at home mom. I admire your strength and courage. I have only one and its hard sometimes to keep up with her. Maybe I lack the energy because I am pregnant, but still, its women like you that make me get my ass off the couch and play on the floor with my baby, even though all I want to do is nap all day long. Anyway, kudos to you for keeping your head up and even still having a sense of humor in all of this...

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 1:10 AM All I can say is 3 is busy! LOL These day our days start at 4AM cause my car is broke and poor Deja eats on the go and will only breast feed so resfuses all bottles. But I find keeping Waverly and Natasha busy helps them but as for me I am CRAZY BUSY. except the funny thing with me is our house is cleaner since having Deja than before! LOL I find I do better with more on my plate when it comes to my house....go figure! ANyhow I had thought I would plan all these play dates and stuff but ends up we don't have time not if the summer is going the way it did today!

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 12:31 PM WOW 3 is hard i could just imagine if they have any health issue's! My kids have there days as well. I love when women are told being a SAHM is not a job and if you stay home with your kids then your lazy! It's so much harder. I wish I could just sit around all day and do not but then the kids would be dirty and hungrey, clothes would be dirty, bills would be left unpaid, no groceries in the house and so on. You seem like you have alot of willpower after everything you have been though kudo's to you!!!

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Jun. 4, 2008 at 9:10 PM

You have a lot going on...Your family is precious though! Keeping up the prayers for you ALL ! I stumbled upon your post today , which brought me to your others.

Hope things get better soon. Your such a strong Mommy..Hang in there Hon.

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Jun. 6, 2008 at 2:29 AM Hello, first let me say, your kids are beautiful! I want to tell you I sent you a message before which I am sure you will get but I feel like the lord was telling me to pray for your daughter. I did pray for your daughters heart to be healed and for everything in her body to be healthy. I would like to say, YOU ARE NOT ALONE, I am a single parent of 2, a 4 and a haf year old and a 3month old. It is not easy, and mine are perfectly fine. I am working on myself and opted to go for parenting classes, discipline beinG the main topic of conversation. I will offer you some suggestions from what I have learned from them and it has paid off for me. First, a spanking is not a bad thing, as long as it is used correctly, My councelor always looks at it as a last resort. But when nothing else works, it is necessary. I will also give you a tip, time out corner works well. But only for the amount of minutes that they are old...by this I mean 2 min. for the 2 year old, 4 minutes for the 4 year old. For my daughter, I use 5 minutes. and if she acts up whle in there, I add on 5 more. It seems to be very effective. I know a 2 year old can be hard toput in time out, I actually did what I am about to suggest with my daughter and I checked with the doctor before I did to make sure it was okay, I used to put her in her car seat and strap her in it, I would let her know when she calmed down she could come out. I would put her in a room where she could not hurt hersef and shut the door. She cried and screamed but after a day of doing it constantly, she calmed down and I did not have to do it as much. Sometimes you as a mom need to take a time out too. But also,  consistency is really important and also if you make a threat of doing some form of discipline, it is important to carry it out. they will know you do not mean it if you do not. I always like taking things away, like the t.v or a video game. With my daughter I have even taken every toy out f her room accept for books and put them in trash bags and kept them locked in my room for a week. She hated it but she has not disrespected my sister since. She was being really fresh with her and not listening and taking tantrums. I had already previously punished her about this issue. Another thing I learned is that discipline and punishment are two different things. God says all of us need discipline. We need to be taught and guided into the right direction. Where punishment is a negative form of teaching them. It is also important to use positive reinforcements too. Also, one more thing, They tell me if you do not have control now, you never will. I hope this helps you to deal with so much on your plate. It might not all help, but I hope I gave you bits of info you can use and get results. It is not easy doing it almost completely on your own as you stated, I know how it is with 2, let alone 3. I dont get breaks, because no one can take them, so I can completely sympathize with you. If you need to talk, I am more than happy. I go to school online and am doing tons of other things to get on my feet, but I try to check my messages every day. Ask God for strength and wisdom, he will deliver, in a shortm short story, I am living proof. I can tell you about that some day if you are interested. Hope I helped some! God Bless!

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