Hello ladies

I need some advise.  My little girl gives me a HARD time eating.  I have to beg her to eat.  She wants breakfast for lunch and dinner also (and when it come to JUNK food she is all over it).  The doctor says she is going threw a phase but I don't know.  When she does eat its rice, corn, and sometimes mashed potatoes or french fries, that's when the blue moon is out.  Since that is the only thing she'll sometimes eats that is what I will offer her all the time.  Which most of the time she says "I'm not hungry.  I tried EVERYTHING under the sun.  I mean really, this girl could go all day without eating.  I tried making it a game......NOT, won't work.

For lunch and dinner she wants pancakes, waffles, or cereal, nothing else.  She won't eat meat, but when she has McDonald's she'll have chicken nuggets.  I buy frozen nuggets and when I do prepare them for her she tells me "That's not McDonald's." She won't take vitamins either.  I tried Flintstones, Gummy Bears etc......... I tried and I'm tried of begging her to eat all the time. 

She weights 30.4 pounds and is going to be 4 years in July.  Is this a phase?  And if  you have some advise please let me know.  She is really thin.  She can still sometimes wear a 2/3. 

Any advise would be appricated.  Thank you!

Add A Comment


Jun. 2, 2008 at 7:51 PM what about you brive her, you tell her you eat these vegtables and i will give you 2 m&m's as soon as you do that

Message Friend Invite

Jun. 2, 2008 at 8:13 PM I tried that....LOL  No luck.  This is driving me CRAZY.  The little girl across the street is a year younger then her and is so healthy.

Message Friend Invite (Original Poster)

Jun. 2, 2008 at 8:29 PM

Sounds a lot like my daughter!  She just turned 8, and is really healthy in spite of being a petite 45 pounds.  Yes, she still wears a size 6, but the pediatrician always says she is perfectly healthy.  My advice would be this:

1. No more Mc Donalds.  She will eventually forget what it tastes like and accept the chicken nuggets from your freezer.  They are cheaper (and healthier if you bake them in the oven).

2. Offer her a tiny (like 2 or 3 bites) serving of each food you are eating for dinner, plus 1 or 2 kid-friendly side dishes, like mac & cheese, applesauce, yogurt, fruit pieces...   At that age, I gave my kids the option of a bowl of plain cheerios or rice krispies with milk, if they didn't want what I was serving.  My daughter ate cereal for dinner for over a year, and I thought she would never grow out of being so picky.  But now she eats almost anything - last week she ate squid!

3.  Every 2 or 3 weeks, perhaps when you are having leftovers or something, make it "breakfast for dinner" night.  It is fine to have pancakes, scrambled eggs and bacon for dinner once in a while!  My kids love it.

4.  Introduce her to new ways of eating the foods she likes.  If she likes plain rice, try making Spanish rice or rice with a mild curry sauce, or a fish Mornay sauce.  If she likes potatoes, fix a meat patty with it and show her how tasty it is to eat the two together.

5. Breathe.  I nearly went crazy waiting for my kids to outgrow being picky.  It was easier with the second one, because I was already seeing the first one getting better.  I let my son eat peanut butter sandwiches every day for lunch for over a year; now he is totally sick of peanut butter, and asks for chicken salad or turkey!  As long as you keep setting a good example and exposing her (even just visually, if she won't taste them) to a variety of foods, she will eventually branch out a bit.   

Good luck to you and your picky little darling.


Message Friend Invite

Jun. 2, 2008 at 8:49 PM LOL.............I am not ALONE...............I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER.  Don't it suck that they could eat the same crap over and over again........it drives me crazy.  You gave me some great advise and I'm not going to worry about her having peanut butter sandwiches all the time.....LOL  Great advise.  One thing about her is if its not plain and has stuff on it she won't eat it.  I tried that with rice.  And I went to McDonald's just to get her dinner and eat SOMETHING.....LOL  OK PROMISE no more Donald's.  But man am I going to hear it when we pass it by.  She knows where McD is........LOL

Message Friend Invite (Original Poster)

Jun. 3, 2008 at 8:22 AM I have a picky eater and it seems that I am fixing three different meals in the evening.  My husband likes his food with lots of hot spices, while I can't eat alot of spices I fix something for myself and than Adam doesn't like what either one of us is having so I fix something for him.  Sometimes I get lucky and fix something that everybody likes.  One thing I quit doing, DON'T BEG HER TO EAT, it is a way of getting attention.  Have you tried having her help you fix the meal?  Maybe if she sees how the food feels in her hands or how it smells, she might get to the next step of eating it.  While you prepare the food have her sample it.  Let her know that this is what all good cooks do.  As she helps you prepare and sample the food, she might see what she is missing.

Message Friend Invite

Jun. 3, 2008 at 2:36 PM

LOL I tried that...........I ask her to help me cook, she agrees......then doesn't want to eat it.  Says "I don't like that."  I never asked her to taste it while we cook but I will include that next time we cook together.  Thank you so much for your advise.

hugs, Frances

Message Friend Invite (Original Poster)

Jun. 4, 2008 at 3:54 PM

WOW!! I go through this on a daily basis with Arissa. Her doc told me that she'll outgrow it, so just dn't worry, unless she goes a couple of days without eating a thing! She's 3 years old,  won't be 4 until Feb. and weighs 36 pounds. She hasnt' gained a single pound in almost a year. Anyhow, when I have days that she won't eat, I give her that drinkable yogurt! The doc just says she'll eat when she's hungry. If she had her way, she'd eat a hot dog every meal, every day.
We do go to McDonald's occasionally, but that's more for her to be able to play. She knows the rule is that she must eat 2 of the nuggets and 10 french fries before being allowed to play. She's recently discovered, thanks to my stepson, that dipping her nuggets in ranch is pretty good and will eat them that way.
I have a friend whose little boy will only eat "yellow" things. Mac and cheese, etc...
Thankfully, Arissa LOVES friuts and veggies, so sometimes, that's all she will eat in a meal. She won't take vitamins either!

I swear, it must just be the age thing! As long as she's healthy and there are no vitamin deficiancies..just work with her. Maybe make a chart and reward her with stickers..have her "earn" her way to McDonalds for those nuggets that she just loves!

Let me know how things go! Email me!


Message Friend Invite

Want to leave a comment and join the discussion?

Sign up for CafeMom!

Already a member? Click here to log in