My husband works with the union, he is a welder. He has worked several times out of town, in other states traveling working to get us ahead on bills & get stuff paid off. We just had our daughter on March. 10, 2008 & on the day she turned 2 weeks old my husband flew out to go to Arizona to work. He was gone 3 weeks & all of a sudden the calls stopped coming from him, when he always called 2-3 times a day & he started avoiding my calls. With him knowing we had a new born baby I thought that something was wrong, I would ask him was he messing around & he would say no, he just wasn't happy with me anymore & wanted a divorce. He didn't even let me heal physically & mentally before dumping this on me. My heart was broke. I tried to leave him alone & give him time without aggrivating him. He was gone for 7 weeks & then came home. When I picked him up from the airport & we got home, he admitted to having an affair. We are both 31 years old & he had an affair with a 20 year old. I was crushed. My world was turned upside down in the blink of an eye. Everyone was shocked, we was the perfect loving couple that hated being away from eachother. Our 1 year anniversary is June 28th of this year. He didn't even give us a year of marriage or a chance to raise our baby together before messing around. I sat here everytime he went out of town & stayed home, taking care of our son & now our daughter, was always faithful to him & stood behind him & supported him. He asked could we work past this & work things out, I tried then he told me that he didn't love me anymore & didn't want to work things out, he said we couldn't get past it as if he was the one this was done to. He is now leaving Sunday to go to Colorado for a job that is going to last about 7 years & he says he is going to come home every couple months to see the kids but it hurts so bad knowing he will not be here to watch our little girl grow up & our son which is 11 years old. Our son is really his but he has been his daddy for the past 2 1/2 years & he adores him.  How do you let go of the pain & start over? How do you turn love to hate? How do you make it past something like this? 

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Jun. 4, 2008 at 3:34 PM i saw ur post..thought i would reply srry hunny!!  it just sucks that had to happen to you..! i know its gonna honestly be really tough but..u can do strong for urself and ur kiddos! i know its easy to say then do.! if u need anyone to talk to im here for you!! ((((((((((hugs momma)))))))))

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