Today, June 2nd, I awoke at 4 am to my aunt knocking on the door. I never knew when I went to bed the night before, my world would change forever. My dad had died unexpectedly in the night. How does one ever prepare themselves for the loss of a parent. We all know this is the order God has put things in, but I just cant believe it. It wasn't suppose to happen so soon. I needed more time to bond, to love, and to listen. I miss him so much. So I ask myself, were do I go from here?

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 9:08 PM

I am so sorry your father has passed on.  A sudden death or even an expected death, neither is every prepared for......

You get through each day the best you can, remember your father for who he was, and never regret or long for the things you didn't get to do or say with him.  Because the memories that you do have are what will make it easier to get through each day, and each day will get easier as your life goes on.

My thoughts are with you:(


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Jun. 2, 2008 at 9:09 PM

I lost my dad 2 days before Thanksgiving in 1999  I was 28 and was completely not prepared for it.  It was the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with.  He died unexpectadly of a Heart Attack while at work.  There was no history of heart disease so I feel your pain.  I know how you are feeling so if you want to talk please please reach out.  I would love to chat about your dad. 


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Jun. 2, 2008 at 9:11 PM

I'm sooo sorry for your loss!!! NO ONE expects for this to happen!! NO ONE is prepared for their parents to pass! I cant tell you how to react,, just be thankful he didn't suffer a long dreadful illness like alot of people do!!  I haven't lost a parent but i've lost a grandmother. She was just like a mother to me. I loved her with all my heart!!!  I know your heart is aching!! All I can say is I'll be thinking of you and your family!!!

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 9:12 PM So sorry for your loss. I'm sure your dad knew you loved him. (((hugs))) A loss is a loss no matter what the circumstances. My thoughts are with you.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:50 PM

I just wanted to say again how sorry I am for your loss.  I pray for God's peace to be with you during this incredibly difficult time.  I know we are pretty much strangers, but if there is anything I can do please feel free to pm me.


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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:52 PM Iam so sorry for your loss. If you need anyone to talk to please message me. I have been through it twice.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 2:32 AM i am so sorry for your loss!!

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 7:19 AM Hugs

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 12:13 PM

I'm so sorry to read this.  I don't know where you go from here...It will take lots of time for you to come to terms that this has happened.  Time...It's the only thing that really helps when things happen that REALLY hurt us.

How are the boys?  Are they handling it okay???

I'm thinking about you and you and your family are in my thoughts.

My deepest sympathies are sent your way.  

HUGE  ((hug)) 

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Jun. 10, 2008 at 1:12 PM

Know you are so special and even the strong need to cry....its not weakness, its feelings.

" Your tears testify to your love. and tears that spring from love help bring healing and renewal."

Grieving is such a hard thing for anyone. "Respect the power of grief.  Know that it can affect you psychologically, physically, and spiritually in intense ways."


These words were told to me, and it helped me out alot.  :)  I am here for you :)

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