My dh and I have been married 11 years.  His 13 y/o daughter and I have never had a great relationship, but now that she's getting older it's getting better.  Her mother has always played the "poor me, I'm a single mother and you do nothing for our daughter" -- yeah, nothing but pay her $700 a month in child support and take SD for extended weekends, most of the summer,  and just whenever she wants to come over while her mother always has places to be and new clothes and SD seems to wear the same 2 outfits every day.  My husband is a good father to Savannah and they have a very close relationship, which I'm sure pisses off her mother.  Anyway....

SD has been telling us that her mother has been getting drunk after work and screams at her and gets crazy and says crazy things.  Well we gave her mom the benefit of the doubt because kids may misinterpret things or whatever.  A couple weeks ago dh's ex called him and cussed him out about something that happened 12 years ago and he said she sounded like she was wasted.  She also was bitchin' about SD and her attitude and on and on... DH called the police to see what needed to be done and they said unless SD is being hit they really can't do anything.  DH just called me from work (50 miles away) to tell me that it's started up again. SD called him and told him that she'd hid her progress report from her mom and that started the arguement (expected) which turned into her mother hitting her in the eye, knocking her to the ground and digging her nails into her arm --all this in front of the 5y/o that SD is babysitting!!!!  Then she left their apartment.   Dave said he told SD to call the police so they can come and they will probably call him to come get her...right after that he got a call from his ex's cell with her telling him "are you coming to get her? Now that you told her to call the police are you coming?" and on and on... 

This is really crazy and tiring.  I told him to just tell her that she's gonna have to give up custody and go live her life because apparantly this is her problem, that she's had to raise her daughter instead of living her life how she'd like to (she's told SD this)...  I understand that her life didn't turn out the way she wanted it to, but good god -- the moment she chose to stop her birth control and get pregnant, she chose to put some things aside and raise this child.  I am so pissed. 

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:28 PM well i dont blame you one bit i would be fumming pissed i say you guys take her from the mom before harm happens!

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:46 PM We're gonna have to see what the Friend of the Court says tomorrow.  Hopefully it works out.

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