I have a friend, whom I love dearly, that is making bad choices in her life.  She has became a person that I dont even know anymore.  Everytime we make a date to hangout, she breaks it to be with this guy that is so wrong for her.  He is leading her down a bad road.  It breaks my heart to see her go this way, but really what can I do, she is a grown woman.  I dont want to end my friendship with her, but she is trying to drag me with her and I like my life the way it is.  I have been slowly pulling away from her and now I really miss her and her kids.  How do I handle this?

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:31 PM Wow. I could have written that myself about my "best friend." Minus the kids, she doesn't have any yet. But she's great at ditching her friends for the "flavor of the month."  I wish I could help. But I'm right there with ya.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 10:37 PM If you get the chance, take her out to lunch and tell her how you honestly feel. Don't say anything bad about the guy she's seeing, that will only make her mad. Just say that you miss being her friend and wish the two of you could spend more time together, and with the kids. Besides that, there is nothing else you can do. Good luck, I hope she makes the right choice!

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 7:00 PM

That is really hard...I'm 34 and I have four children. I have lost so many friends for similar reasons. It's really hard because for me my priorities changed a lot when I became a mom and I became so much more selective about the people in my life. I really don't know what to tell you except you sound like a good mom for being aware of your kids surroundings and you sound thoughtful. Good luck!

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Jul. 16, 2008 at 10:29 AM It is hard when someone that you love is hurting everyone around them and I wish that some people could see what they were doing to the people around them.  I wish i could tell you how to handle this problem, but I am having a problem of my own and do not know how to handle it.  If  I could give you any thing at all is would be to just PRAY as hard as you can and maybe your friend will come to their since. I hope everything wiil get better.

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