This is a venting post so I'm sorry if this offends some people. I am so sick of my hubby!! He is sooo ungrateful. I stay home all day, take care of the kids, clean the house, make him dinner, pay all the bills, do the budget, and run my own business. He never says the house looks good, or you look good. NOTHING!! So tonight wasn't such a shock. He came home tonight and asked if I had plans on friday night. Well I said no then he proceeds to tell me that a guy that he works with is having a birthday party that night and he's going. Well what about me?? Other wives are going to be there. His wife is...so I'm pissed now. I went off on him and he was all I work all day and I get yelled at. I tried to tell him that I think it was very insensitive of him to not think of me. He knows that my mom would take our daughter in a heart beat if we asked. I feel like he is just ashamed to have me meet anyone he works with. I mean I'm not skinny by any means, not even really his type I don't think. I just think that he doesn't want to be with me in public. I really wish that I could poof change my look and make me skinny and so beautiful. But come on you are supposed to love me no matter what right? Not oh well if you are over a certain weight then I won't want to be in public with you anymore. I just feel like crawling in a hole and staying there forever! Sorry y'all that's just how I feel.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:50 PM I'm so sorry your hubby is being ungrateful! :( I hope you start feeling better and maybe your hubby will turn around? *hugs*

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jjaml
Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:50 PM I know this probably wont make you feel any better, but its not your fault that hes an ass. Does he realize that you put on weight because you were able to give him a beautiful daughter? This made me so mad when i read it because my sisters husband is the same way, she actually basically starves herself for him. Im sorry you feel the way you do and i hope things get better for you. In my opinion i think you are to good for him and he should be ashamed of himself for making his wife, the love of his life, feel this way about herself.

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clack...
Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:50 PM So, pissed off is totally fair.  I am on your side, I have heard this before.  However, after you calm down, lets figure out what you can do about it.  I assume that you want to be married and you want things to be different.  As hard as it might be to hear it, you need to ask him why, but first you need to calmly tell him how his actions made you feel.  If it really comes down to him being embarassed, then that sucks and I am very sorry.  You probably already know that you don't look as you want to look either,and you probably think about it constantly, tell him that.  If you want it to change, then work out a plan with your husband that allows you time to go walk, or whatever.  My husband did something pretty similar, and he just wanted to know that I cared about him, and myself,and that I hadn't given up.  I am on my way to being healthy, but I have a ways to go.  I do feel better about myself just because I am trying.  My husband does too.  By the way, my husband got a list of "ways to love my wife better" too.

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bettstwo
Jun. 2, 2008 at 11:53 PM Cheer up baby girl>> My heart goes out to you, I have sort of the same problem going on over here. My husband doesn't appreciate me either.  So I am coming up with a plan . You are worth more and deserve it too. What ever you do do it for you and no other. I hope things get better for you.

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Bea0400
Jun. 24, 2008 at 10:55 PM

Men suck like this sometimes. Don't bring yourself down because of his actions. Go out with your friends here and there it sounds like you need to get out of the hosue and away from mommy suty for a bit. Talk to  your husband about how you feel, men can be slow...they don't process things like women lol...so lay it out!!! Tell him how you feel about it all.

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