I have a problem with my daughter's foster mom...... and I kind of need a little help with this one if you don't mind?

My daughter has found a new friend whom she really likes and has asked him to a dance; do you think that it is wrong for the foster mom to refuse to let her go to this dance as friend with this person because he is a little older than her and he likes her as well?

Being that his grandmother and aunt are both ministers and find nothing wrong with them going to the dance as friends.

Plus the foster mom is refusing to give her an answer as to whether she will let my daughter come out to my house and stay this weekend because her little brother will also be here this weekend.

Any advice would be greatly apprecriated deeply.

Your friend in Pennsylvania

Terri L Gardner

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 1:28 AM How old is your daughter?How old is he?does the foster mom think he might do something "bad" to your daughter?Can your worker talk to the foster mom for you and ask her what the concerns are about this boy?Can your daughter take a cell phone with her in case of a problem?That might help ease some worries or if you can have the foster mom meet the boy herself and she can see he is not a bad boy.Hope this helps.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 1:35 AM Well since your daughter is in her care it really is her decision.  If the foster mom says no then its no.   The foster mom has for some reason given custody of your child until the courts see fit in sending the child back to you.  It is her responsibility to make the aduilt decisions in your daughters life.  To be a guardian and make sure she is safe and when she makes a decision about a dance or going to your house it is her responsibility to decide.  It doesn't matter if you think it is not fair and of course your daughter will be upset but again it is a decision the foster mother has made and your daughter even though she might not like it has to accept it as so do you...

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