have you forgotten yourself?

[mamazfave3]

Good morning everyone! I thought I would start this day off with posting something that’s been on my mind for a while; tell me what you think or you can keep it to yourself….it’s up to you!

Most of you don’t know my situation. I’ve been married for three and a half years, to what I thought was the love of my life. I have three beautiful children. My youngest was born with CHD (congenital heart disease) last year, which required him to have surgery at a very young age. My husband and I have separated and it was brought to my attention that he never loved me, he thought this was “right” for him but I guess he was wrong.

I’ve come to this place in my life, where I had forgotten who I was. I know I’m a mommy and I was a wife; but before I was a mommy and a wife I was someone else. Becoming a parent clouds our thoughts and we lose perspective of who we are. I know we are suppose to love and care for our children, but what about ourselves? My mother has always told me to take care of myself, because if I didn’t then who would care for my children. I never understood what she was talking about until now. I’ve went these past few years putting myself last, and we all do it; but now I’ve got to find myself and take care of myself.

I’m taking this opportunity of my “new life” to start over for myself and my children. A happy mommy makes a happy family, right? I’m just not for sure what steps to take to make this a new start…..got any ideas?

How many of you have done this? How do you change this?

[mandcmom]

Jun. 3, 2008 at 11:12 AM

Wow, you hit the nail on the head.  I'm not sure how we're supposed to take care of ourselves, my mom says the exact same thing.  I ask her, how did you take care of  yourself when we were little?  You know what she says, I don't know. :)  I think we just need to go to the dr and get our check ups and take a bath (by ourselves!!) when we feel like we need it or go for a walk.  This will be harder for you, you don't have anyone coming home at night to take up the slack.  Maybe your mom can help?  You need it more than I do, my hubby comes home every night.  I'm thinking about you - if you need to talk, send me a message.

hugs!