Today grant tells me he may have got his new girlf preggo, just to spite me this is. I am so fucking angry with him for this. I don't want to be with him one little bit but where does he get off coming and telling me shit like that. I wish I could take Harvey and run, somewhere he can't find us, I knwo in a few years time I'm going to have a very messed up little boy on my hands.

Im like 99.9% sure this thing is a lie btw but what if it's not?? What if this girl has his baby, mind you I don't even know if the girl is real??

He just liikes getting to me so congrats grant, you have me in tears for another day.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 7:45 AM Don't let him control you like that.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 7:50 AM

Why are you giving this man so much power over you??   Sounds like he knows how to hurt you and is enjoying it so take away that power!  When he tells you junk like that - don't let him see it upsets you smile if it kills you and say CONGRATS!!!  and will throw him for a loop you aren't mad!

Love your enemies - it confuses the crap out of them...


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Jun. 3, 2008 at 7:56 AM can i just add to this, he wa sin my bed 5 days ago telling me he loves me and our son and today he i said i may be preggo and he said so might be my girlf (who ididn't know about) and that if i was preggo i would have to have an abortion?!?!?!?!?

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 8:23 AM You don't want to be with him yet he was in your bed just 5 days ago?  You need to decide what it is you really want and it shouldn't be him if he's screwing around with you and others.  Have more respect for yourself, woman!

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 8:30 AM to the idiot who just left her stupid oppinion about my life, thanks, so helpful, never wanted best for you kids as in a family then???  i tried with him so much and you ppl have no clue trust me!

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 8:45 AM

OH Lovey.  Don't worry about your gorgeous little champ!!!  With you in his life you will bring balance.  It is not unsual for a child to grow up with one parent and have a fantastic life.  Better to have one great influence than an "every now and then" parent like Grant.

Hugs x x x

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 9:19 AM

oh leanne please ignore that bitchy comment........Hell...everyone looks for love in the wrong places when we're therapist told me that so many women mistake sex for physical affection and love when it is not always like that....I have that problem sadly.

You are a good parent..and the only person Harvey needs in his life......God i have been tempted to cut in and was only my mum that prevented me from staying up north recently....

I grew up wth 1 parent...all be it my circumstances were can be cone and it shouldn't hurt harvey at all! So long as you continue to be strong and love him the way you are! Grant is just being a parent when it suits him......that in itself will not benefit harvey in the long run.

When i posted my recent problem in stay at home mum...i was met with similar comments to the one you i do not respect myself etc.....what a crock of're right...we don't keep giving our men second chances because its the easy option! Because it ISNT! But we want the best for our little ones...and society has made us think that in order to provide for our children in the best way possible...we need to be in a nuclear family....

 Well im going to stick two fingers up at that stupid stereotype and become a single parent to the three of my girls and am going to fiercley fight if it ends up being an argument about parental rights....and i hope you join me in saying a huge FUCK YOU to all the assholes of this world.


Let me know how you are xxx

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 9:45 AM

If she IS (and its a big if) gets kinda complicated as you have to decide how much you want that baby to be a part of Harvey's like. My twins have a half brother who would probably be 7ish now......they wont see him until they are old enough to decide themselves....but again my circumstances are different.

but dont let it bother you........yoru son is the only baby (at the moment) that matters to you.....whatever Grant does shouldnt phase you too much.....he's an asshole and soon ths other "girlfrend" will realise too.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 10:35 AM What a jerk!  I agree 100% with everything Nicola said.  Try not to let him have so much power over your life.  Just do what's best for you and Harvey.  And by the way....Harvey will grow up to be a fabulous young man because he has the best mommy in the world!!

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 11:56 PM head up, babe.  listen to that part of you saying that he's just trying to wind you up, as if that's in his nature, surely that's what he's trying to do again.  not really the response you wanted to your news!  let us know how you're doing...

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