So many changes, Brianna plays softball has played for a long time now, started with Tball in Kindergarten.  She is good very good but doesn't want to play any-longer.  It was a battle this whole season to get her to go to the games, but she gave a commitment and I expected her to follow through with it, so yes I made her go to her games.  Now they are doing All Stars in the summer for the players that get picked for it and she will more then likely get picked, she has every year, but she does not want to do it and I just can't force it on her.  It kind of breaks my heart, she is a really good player, she seems to just have a natural ability for it she can play any position and even pitches fairly decent but it is interfering with her social life.  If she could only see that there is time enough for everything and work on her ability.  Even her coach tried to sit her down and explain to her that she truly had talent and she should try to keep with it but she just doesn't want to hear it.  So in this case she wins I can not force her to do something she just has no interest in any-longer.  I have to say this was a chapter in parenthood that did break my heart I know it would be so much more beneficial for her to play but I also know she will hate me if I force it and wind up hating the game.  I wish we could just get in there heads and have them see the light, if it wasn't for the fact that most of her friends don't play and she would rather be doing other things I think she would still play.  

Further analysing the situation also makes me realize my feelings on this are more about what I want then what she wants.  I remember seeing her so small hitting that ball off the T and now it is coming to an end.  I just want to lay my head down and cry, I don't want to let her grow up and sometimes we just have to let them expand their wings and fly in the direction they would like to go.  I still have great memories of my little girl in pig tails saying Mommy did you see that I just hit the ball.  My baby isn't a baby anymore.

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elean...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 9:53 AM You got my eyes all wet!  Aww Kristine, maybe she will realize she misses it.  Or maybe she'll find a new interest that really surprises you!  You're doing great, lady.

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kirsten1
Jun. 3, 2008 at 10:20 AM  Thanks Kristine, I so wanted to cry this morning. They grow up quick. My son will be a Senior this coming year. I still remember his first day of school. I bawled like a baby.

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Lilly...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 10:38 AM

Hey Kristine....my children and myself have really learned many valuable lessons in this respect. I absolutely agree with how you are handling this.

My daughters are both handling exactly the same kinds of situations with their children. It all sounds very familiar to me. At some point we realize that our babies have become little people, and there are certain ways we must let go. Heartbreaking, at first. But you and they will both benefit from the excellent parenting job you are doing. Hugs...:) :) :)

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diand...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 12:36 PM

I hate this growing up thing. It's so much more painful than we ever thought it would be.

On the bright side, perhaps as she reaches junior high and high school and she has the opportunity to try out for the school teams, she'll realize how easy it is to play and be social. Hopefully she'll have a few friends who want to try out and she'll get back in it that way.

Hang in there Momma! 

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FromAtoZ
Jun. 3, 2008 at 11:34 PM Do you realize what an amazing woman and mother you are?  I know that at this point in Brianna's life she isn't going to see it, but she will one day.  Mark my word.  We have to let our children find their own paths, even if we are right and they are wrong.  ;) 

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