My boys that is.  Like is said in a previous journal I am taking charge again as much as I physically can do.  Well, friday my boss/friend came out and helped me with the boys area upstairs.  We are not done yet but we got a lot done.  It is really amazing how much crap these 3 boys have.  Janet made me bag up all their clothes.  Every last thing just about, then she went out and bought them new outfits for a weeks time down to underwear and socks.  Even some jeans and such in case of cool weather.  We bagged up 6 bags of clothes that were  upstairs.  Now some was stuff I put up for Caleb as he gets bigger only to find out Jacob and Caleb are build different the Nicholas and that the few months different in the year that they were born most don't work anyhow. 

They had 2 bags of trash we threw out.  I can't believe it ever got so bad.  ONce I started I just kept throwing things out.  I still have to do the toys next.  I am emptying the toy boxes out and they can pick enough to fill it then the rest is gone as soon as I get the chance.  

To top things off to teach them that lesson we told them that they were out of luck on the clothes as we did not tell them Janet bought them new clothe until Sunday before bed.  We made them think they only had for the most part what they wore to school on Friday.   They were upset.  Crying and such.  Nicholas threatened to call the police for child abuse.   We were told we were mean, unfair, ect.  We just now have to hope that this has taught them we mean business.  If you don't pick up it will be gone forever. 

 I know some of you make think we went to the extreme, but my boys are very spoiled.  Matter a fact too spoiled I think as they are bratty not just spoiled.  In our house it is one thing to be spoiled, but you can't be a spoiled brat.

All usable things are being donated as well. 


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Jun. 3, 2008 at 10:28 AM I don't think you went to an extreme. As a matter of fact I think you handled it well. I seem to recall I saw something like that on some show like the Nanny or Nanny 911.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 10:42 AM I get the mean and unfair thing all the time these days. Trev's 9 now and I'm already dreading the teenage years.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 10:51 AM

I had to chuckle about Nicholas threatening to call the police for child abuse. I probably would have handed him the phone and said go ahead!!!

I know it is no fun to be the bad cop, but you've got to do what you've got to do. Good for you for being firm and sticking to your guns!!

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 11:26 AM Good for you. I got rid of all the clothes and took everything in this house not being worn to Goodwill. I desperately need to do the toys again. We don't have a toy/play room and I am so sick of this house looking like a giant toy box.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 4:29 PM

Love is many things ... and you are showing the boys some tough love.  It's a difficult thing to do ... but kudos to you for not taking the "easy" road, but rather taking the time to teach them a valuable lesson.  You are a good Mom! :)

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Jun. 4, 2008 at 11:45 PM Another option is taking the toys and clothes in good condition to a children's resale shop, like Children's Orchard in A2, they give you either store credit or cash back.   Or have the boys help you pick toys in good condition  to give to kids at a hospital, etc, somewhere they can see the joy they can give another child from a toy that they don't play with as much anymore.  The thing about Goodwill is that they see their toys and clothes are gone, but don't get to see the results of how much that donation has helped another person, and may not fully "get it" when we try to just tell them.  Maybe if you make them get involved with the cleaning and packing up and giving away, they will understand just how much they have, as well as perhaps have less of a "you came in and stoled my stuff" mentality. I know, you were trying to get it DONE without the kicking and screaming and fighting and begging them to get involved and stay involved.  And Janet is awesome, what a friend! And you are a great Mom!  Good luck!

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Jun. 9, 2008 at 11:01 PM Congrats on getting up the nerve to just go in and take care of business!! I know this has been bothering you for a while, hopefully you made an impact and they will try harder to take care of their things!!

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