I'm a SAHM.  I love it.  I never thought that I would stay at home.  It just turned out that way.  I may complain but deep in my heart, I still love it.  Doesn’t everyone complain about their jobs once in a while?  

I was raised by a WOHM.  It was her choice.  My Mom was very successful in her business and an inspiration to a lot of her female employees.  She is one of the few in her generation to live that life.  My sister and I turned out just fine.  It taught me to be confident and not wait for a man to take care of me.  I was always taught to take care of myself and be independent.  

 I was that “one child” that was at the babysitters.  I’m sure that other Moms talked about my Mom.  They wondered why she worked out of the home.  I’m sure that they gossiped.  My Mom was the one that would come to school when she needed to.  She was the one that always looked so pretty.  She dressed the height of fashion, always had her hair done and smelled good.  I’m just the opposite.  Plain Jane.   

I HATE it when I become one of those WOHM at my kid’s school now.  It kills me.  I’ll be at one of my older child’s school (two separate ages, two separate schools) and a Mom like that will come in.  One of the other Moms and I will automatically start talking.  I have to catch myself and shut my mouth.  I usually just walk away.  Who am I to be that way?

 I can’t look down on any Mom who works out of the home.  That is a horrible thing for me to do!  Like I said before.  My sister and I turned out just fine.  My Mom taught us so much.   It’s just ironic and almost funny that I’m a SAHM now.  There always seems to be such a debate between SAHM and WOHM.  It’s too bad. 

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 10:56 AM Thank you so much for posting this.  I am a WOHM and I was raised by a SAHM.  I think that it is just ridiculous they way SAHM and WOHM are always at each others throats around here.

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Jun. 24, 2008 at 11:00 AM My mom HAD to work.  She did it alone.  I think it is a crime for women to bash other women for working.  We all just have to do the best we can and raise up good kids.  That is what it is all about.  Keep walking away from the gossip.  You will be a better person for it.

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