I refuse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol

My "soon to be ex-friend" is havin a party this weekend. she called to invite me and the kids. I asked what type of party so I knew clothing desired, and if it would be truly approprate to bring children to. I know how some of her past shin-digs have ended up.

She said " well really it is a blow-out. Any thing you want will be at this party" I asked if she remembered That I was now 2+ yrs sober, and didn't use, drink. Nor do I take my children to those type of places, heck I avoid them like the plague. She said, Yes she remembered, but figuired it been this long, I can handle a tiny bit of fun, and if I didn't want to partake, I could always be the child-minder. UHHH HELLO is no way in this world I will be going! I am not a baby-sitter, sober or not. Nor, do I trust my addictions, I trust myself, but not the addiction. Do you understand that sentence? it makes perfect sense to me, but not to her.

I asked her why she would invite people with kids, let alone the kids, to something like this? She said, cause what the hell else we going to do with the kdis? uhh for one, find a sitter, or better yet quit doing that stuff and quit throwing those types of parties.

I asked her to not call me anymore. I am very disturbed that she thinks I can just put my addictions on a shelf, and go to a place like that, with my "favorite" fun toys, and not be tempeted. I am disturbed that their will be kids there, and that she wanted me to be the "sitter" or just to join in.

I can't believe her. She honestly must not remember the hell I went thru 2 yrs ago, when I first got clean! The harsh reality is, she doesn't remember , cause she didn't care for me, then or now. Oh she played lip service to me, but, umm her call today shows she didnt / doesn't care. I am sure of myself, but my cravings and addictions are fickle. They show up at the worst/best times. I can not imagine going to a party with all those "favors" and not using drinking.

UHH tell me was I wrong, in telling her off and cutting the friendship? I don't think I was, cause with friends like that--who needs enemies!

Add A Comment


Jun. 3, 2008 at 11:52 AM I don't think you were wrong at all.  You need to do what's best for you and your kids and staying away from people and situations like that should be top of the list.  Good luck.

Message Friend Invite

Jun. 3, 2008 at 11:59 AM she don't understand the situtation because it's not her "problem". i really belive she don't get it. i had to cut ties with some of my friends when i quit partying. not easy to do but necessary for many reasons. real , true friends get it. even if they dont understand they GET YOU. nope flee from temptation and stand firm againt the devil.

Message Friend Invite

Jun. 3, 2008 at 12:27 PM YOU ARE NOT WRONG!!!! I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself and your children. You did the right thing. How dare her to act that way so non-chalantly about what your life has taken you through and where you have brought it to now. She is not a friend by no means and I'm sorry you had to see the truth about that this way. I'm glad you did before she did drag you to a place where you didn't want to go back to. Good for you for standing proud.

Message Friend Invite

Jun. 3, 2008 at 12:36 PM I do not think you were wrong at all!! You know what is best for you and your children and are setting that as a #1 priority and that is the way it should be. She enver should of even called and invited you less alone say that you could be the babysitter ince you would not partake in any of the "activities" the other adults would be doing. I too think it is absurd that adults will be atking their children and getting drunk with them and then driving home???? You did the right thing Sue!!

Message Friend Invite

Jun. 3, 2008 at 5:40 PM You did the right thing because she is toxic to your recovery!   You are so strong for doing that too.   i have to commend you because you are so positive.  

Message Friend Invite

Jun. 3, 2008 at 11:50 PM Here is a big "HOORAH" for you as you did the riht thing.  She obviously doesn't respect or care for you.  You have many more friends who are here for you.  You do not need to hold onto an ulcer like that.

Message Friend Invite

Jun. 5, 2008 at 8:52 AM

Good for you!!  ((Sorry, I just read your journal))  You did the right thing, hun.  It may have been hard but it was totally worth it.  It is obvious that she does not care what you have been through and what you are still going through.  If it were me I would be going out of my mind trying NOT to call the police, that night, with an annonymous tip-- only because there are going to be children there. IMO, that is unacceptable.

 You can be very proud of yourself for standing your ground.  You are an amazing woman and a wonderful mother! 

Message Friend Invite

Want to leave a comment and join the discussion?

Sign up for CafeMom!

Already a member? Click here to log in