I was surprised at the response my last journal got! A lot of the replies were the "psycho babble" that I said I didn't want to hear, but for the most part everyone was really helpful. For those that are wondering I havn't given up on breastfeeding yet.

We bought a sling over the weekend, and it has helped... thanks for that suggestion. I still can't do ALL of the things my toddler needs, but at least I can get up and move around and make him a snack if need be.

I am going to keep at the BFing as long as I can, but it still bothers me how much time it takes away from Leland. He is not the type of child who will sit quietly in my lap and read a book while I feed the baby. He is VERY active, and wants me to run and jump and dance w/ him! So hopefully Kyan will get quicker at eating, like everyone says he will, soon.

A new problem w/ BFing came up over the weekend... since Kyan was born he has pretty much wanted to eat every 2 hours... then Friday and Saturday he decided to eat every 4 hours. It was nice to have the little break, BUT then Sunday he changed his mind again and decided to eat every hour! My milk supply can't keep up!  He will nurse for a few minuets on one side then get frustrated and start screaming, and when I switch sides the same thing happens. I'm worried he's not getting enough now because he's only having 1 (maybe 2) bowel movements a day, and I believe he's supposed to be having at least 5 at this point. He has plenty of wet diapers though. Anyone have some advice on this?

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 11:56 AM

You will produce all the breast milk that he needs. As his eating habits change, so will your production. what foods you eat = quality of breastmilk. How much you drink = quantity. So keep up the good work. it's hard and make sure you are drinking plenty of water and juice.  Soda and coffee can dehydrate you.


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Jun. 3, 2008 at 12:00 PM One Boob may have more milk then the other.... Jacob was the same way and He ended up sucking it all out at 3 months... I had to switch to formula then because he wasnt getting enough breast milk. U may want to pump and formula when u feel he may not be getting enough. Or He may just end up being a formula baby. Just watch and see what best suits u.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 12:00 PM Sometimes they don't have any bowels in a day it just means that he is using everything hes getting but if he doesnt have any for a few days then you need to call the doc. I don't know if you saw my post about the BFing but I supploment with formula during the day it doesn't hurt them and it gives you a chance to get things don as it spaces out the feedings. Also Leland can help feed him bottle which makes interaction between all of you. Just a thought. I hope things get better soon. I know it can be frustrating as my first two were 19 months apart and these 2 are 2 years apart. You are doing a good job even though it may not feel like it. Leland is at an age that having to do things by himself sometimes is a learning process so don't think you are being a bad mom by taking care of the baby.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 12:01 PM these will help with your supply.... cabbage, greener lettuce, and soups...

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 12:24 PM I also want to mention that Kyan has been spitting up... a lot! My older son had really bad reflux and had to be on Zantac until he was 18 months old. Even now he still has digestion problems and is ALWAYS constipated... I have to put a small amount of corn syrup in each of his milk cups, if I miss more than 2 milk cups then he gets REALLY bad constipated again. So, I'm hoping that this isn't a genetic thing.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 1:02 PM Bowel movements in babies can be completely normal with 1 a day...my youngest NEVER pooped more than 2 times a day even as a breastfed baby for 7 months. So long as the are peeing thats all that is really a concern. All babies are diff. when it comes to nursing, I nursed 4 of my 5 and each of them took to it differently. Just keep at it and you and him together will find what works best. I had to nurse Lilly with her sitting up due to a birth defect she has and that stunk but it was what worked for her without choking and we got good at it! Good luck and keep it up!!

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 3:40 PM im having the same fear that you are going through...im worried that i wont be able to be there for connor enough after the baby is born. im having morgan in 3 weeks...and as you know im also a stay at home mom and will be alone with the 2 of them all day, shes not even here yet and all i hear from connor is mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy i dont want to feel like im not giving him any attention if im always going to be breastfeeding....im really nervous...

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 3:52 PM My daughter only had one bowel movement a week. She was strictly breastfed. The doctor said it was normal. I use to have to bicycle her legs after every feeding to get things moving. It helped alot. She is normal and regular with one a day at the same time everyday now. She is almost 5. I think every kids is different. As long as they are growing at a good rate. You're doctor can help you more with that.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 3:55 PM

Well it is a good thing you aren't "keeping up" with Leland because your body needs the rest.  It wouldn't be healthy for you to run and jump and dance constantly so soon after having a baby.  Your body needs time to heal and this is natures way of making sure that happens.  You still have plenty of time for limited jumping dancing and running in between nursing sessions.  You aren't taking anything away from Leland by nursing your baby.

As far as supply goes, you can keep up.  Supply does not react to demand instantaneously.  The reason your baby nurses so much is for the exact purpose of asking your body to produce more milk for whe he needs it in the near future.  It will happen as long as you nurse on demand.  This is par for the course.  The frequency and duration will change all throughout the nursing relationship.  Also, there is no need to have 5 bowl movements a day for a breasted baby.  At all.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 4:52 PM

Just do your best.  I have three kids and have breastfed all three.  My youngest is almost 4 months old and my middle is turning 2 this weekend.  It isn't easy to feed the baby while the toddler is getting into stuff, I know.  But, this too shall pass.  Balance is key.  No need to feel guilty about the attention thing.  You love them both, but they have different needs.  Newborns require more time more frequently, but soon enough Kyan will be growing and needing fewer feedings, etc.  Also remember that Leland will not remember these times.  Don't feel guilty, just do your best!

To keep up your supply, eat well, drink a lot of water and get as much rest as you can!  Take care.

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