First the backround :  My friend , Bill, split with his wife last year.  After a VERY long custody battle that I had to go in and testify for many times ( causing my hubby to take time off of work to watch the kids ) he has decided to abandon his son and go to Texas ( we are in New York ).  Why is he leaving his son ?

Better job ?  No, he is going there with no job.

More support there for him ?  No.  All of his family is here in NY.

New home ?  No. He will be homeless.

He is ging there for a piece of a$$.  Not any piece ........... he is going there for a woman who is still married ( supposidly asked for a divorce ) with her hubby  still sleeping in the house !  He is also still not divorced.

This past weekend he paid for her to come here to NY and hang out ( not taking his son for the weekend even though he only has two left with him before he leaves ).  And he has the nerve to bitch at me because I did not go meet her !  This last week my daughters fingers were mangled on the bus by two bullies, I ended up with strep throat and on friday my aunt lost her battle with cancer and he has the nerve to yell at me for not going and meeting this woman !  Oh and not even a " how are you doing ?"

Before you say it this is not jelousy, he is like a brother to me.  Any thing else ... eewwwwwwww... gross.

His main reason for going is " I cant be a good parent if I am not happy . "  I just dont get it !  I have made many choices  that did not make me a happy woman but were in the best interest of my kids !  He also does not think him leaving will change his relationship with his son who is 6 and in therapy over the seperation.

Any ways, can I kick him in the head in his pants ?  Maybe if I damage it he will start thinking with the other one.

Sorry so long but I had to get it out before I assult him.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 12:39 PM Go ahead and kick him !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  How the #$%% is he going to be a good dad thousands of miles away ???????  

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 12:45 PM Oh God. Honestly. The answer to his anger is, "I am not going to lie and express happiness over a relationship I don't approve of. I am sure she is a nice enough person but I can't support this." My two year old niece cries every night because she can't understand why daddy doesn't want to come home from work (He is in Iraq-that she doesn't understand) If a two year old can feel the effects of her daddy being gone a six year old certainly gets it. The older kids take it the hardest. They think it's their fault and then they start to bargain. "If I am good will daddy come home?" Kids need their fathers. Your friend is being selfish. I hope is ex will be able to deal. Is there any way you can include her son in your life? Or include yourself in his like going to his ball games (if there are any) taking him to the museum or the zoo? I really have issues with petty selfish people. I know a few in my life. One whose little girl is particularly attached to me. If she ever gets out of sorts because her kid likes me better than her all I have to say is, "If you put her first then she would like you better. You don't, you put your needs first."

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 12:54 PM

Why the hell did he ever start the huge drama custody battle if he was planning to leave?? I completely understand your frustration.  I think I would be doing a little more than kicking him in the balls.....but then again, I am more evil than you!  LOL

Good luck sweetie and I am sooo sorry to hear about your Aunt. I will say a prayer for her.

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