Below is a letter written from our doctor whom birthed our stillborn daughter.  It was difficult to read, but it helped us so much, hope this helps you as well.

 

Dearest Little One,

 So many times I have started this letter to you.  Mostly in the still quiet of the night when I lie in bed and sleep evades me... I think of you.  The activities and business of the day otherwise crowds your memory.  Though if I'm honest, it's that business that gives me escape from the single thought that always pushed forward.... I miss you.  Your mother reflected with me how your brief life, snatched away so prematurely was seemingly impacting many more than if you had shared your years with us.  Your mother is insightful and courageous beyond measure.

I gained wisdom from knowing you. Some of it academic wisdom, but the vast and overwhelmeing majority, is wisdom of the heart.  Thank you for your priceless gift.  It came at such a cost.

I'm saddened beyond words at the moments that will never be for you, for your parents, your grandparents, your someday brothers and sisters, your whole family.

There is so much beauty and joy in life, so too, sorrows and pain.  We know the height of one from the depth of the other.  You won't suffer the pain and sorrow, nor will you live these struggles of ours.  The arms that cradle you now, knit you together in your mother and by His perfect purpose -  which is a mystery.  He has you safe until we hold you too.  Until then, I'll hold you in my heart and recall with joy your little life and the gift it is to treaure.

The day you were born is engraved in me.  Your mother's strength and courage, the devout and steadfast love of your father - they will always humble my heart.

As your little body made it's journey to my arms, I trembled to be in that holy place where life and death co.exist.  The still silence of the room was pierced first by the anguished sob caught in your father's throat.  Our fruitless hopes that maybe it was all a mistake, were extinguished by the reality of your perfect but silent, still body.  Your were gone, only your perfect, magnificent little body remained.

So little one, I will end this letter the way I began, to say, I miss you.

Most days I'm comforted by the unwavering faith that God himself holds you now.  I pray that comfort - which passes all understanding lifts your mom and dad and all who loved you too.  Until I can hold you in heaven, God keep you.

                                         With much love

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dstei...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 1:14 PM That made me cry.  Very touching and beautiful.  I'm so sorry for your loss.

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JoyeA...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 1:17 PM Very moving and powerful. I'm sorry too that you lost your baby. Love to you and your family.

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memem...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 1:21 PM I AM VERY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS WORDS CAN NOT COME TOGETHER TO EXPRESS MY SORROW FOR YOU. THAT LETTER WAS PROABLY THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING I HAVE EVER READ, IT BROUGHT ME TEARS. I PRAY THAT YOUR FAMILY WILL HEAL FROM THIS OVERWHELMING HEART ACHE I KNOW NOT YOUR PAIN BUT I FEEL SO SAD BECAUSE MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN VERY SICK, THE DOCTORS SAID SHE COULD HAVE DIED SHE SWOLLED HER OWN BOWEL MOVEMENT I DID KNOW HOW SERIOUS THAT WAS SHE SATYED IN HOSPITAL FOR 12-DAYS WITH OXGEN IN HER NOSE, UNABLE TO EAT FOR FIRST FIVE DAY'S HER TINY LUNGS FILLED WITH THINGS THAT SHOULD NOT BE THERE. BY GOD'S GRACE SHE PULLED THROUGH AND IS FINE. I WON'T KEEP GOING ON I WILL JUST SAY I AM TRULLY SORRY AND MAY GOD CONTINUE TO KEEP YOU AND YOURS. GOD BLESS

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livlov
Jun. 3, 2008 at 1:29 PM

What a caring doctor.  I hope it helps you to know she is in wonderful arms right now.

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Jane8
Jun. 3, 2008 at 1:47 PM I lost my daughter at 21 weeks this past December. I'm sorry that you've experienced the same indescribable pain...

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koshe...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 1:47 PM Wow, that is such a beautiful letter and very thoughtful of your doctor.  I know letters and words will never take away the pain, but the love that surrounds us can make each day bearable. 

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chery...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 2:12 PM What an amazingly beautiful letter.  Thank you for sharing that with us.

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miran...
Jun. 24, 2008 at 12:08 AM I am so sorry for your pain i loss my daughter on 04-05-07 that was a amazing letter god bless to you and your family

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SaraM...
Jul. 15, 2008 at 3:43 PM oh jeez.. that is so sweet that your dr cares enough to have done something like this .. to have taken the time to recognize your daughter ...   so sweet

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