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I'm reposting this journal to bring awareness to this cause. Give the gift of life, become an organ donor please! You can go to www.DonateLife.net or www.IowaDonorRegistry.org or you can search google for your local state donor network. Please vote this popular! For Statistics on organ donation www.unos.org

 

I'm writing this post today in memory of my nephew, Devin Miller. He went to heaven to be our angel above June 12th, 2003. He was like my son, my mom and I raised him since he was born. DOB 8-14-88 Shortly after he was born, I had my first child. He lived with my mom and I helped her out on the weekends and with other things, doctor appt., taking him shopping, ect. He was very active. He loved to ride his bike and skateboarding, hanging out with his friends and we can't forget his "girlfriend" LOL When he was about 3 yrs old, he was diagnosed with asthma. He was hospitalized serveral times off and on through the years. Lots of visits to the ER for quick interventions but alot of times they would get it under control and he could go right back home.

This is going to be hard to write because I won't be able to see what I'm typing through all the tears. He is dearly missed by us all. He had a beautiful smile and a very "BIG" heart.

I'll never forget the phone call! It was 5 in the morning and my phone rang, I knew something was wrong. My mom had been sick, so I thought it was something with her. It was my mom, she was so upset she couldn't hardly talk. She fell in the floor as she was talking to me and was screaming, "It's Devin, It's Devin, he stopped breathing, He's not breathing!!" It was an asthma attack! My dad was doing CPR. The ambulance was on it's way. I jumped out of bed, I was trying to find my clothes from the night before, I couldn't find anything!!! All of a sudden I felt light headed and my knees came out from under me. I sat there for a minute and couldn't believe what was happening! I jumped up and grabbed my keys and I drove as fast as I could to my mom's (about 2 1/2 miles, straight shot) As I was coming down the street, and you can see as far as a mile or more all the way to my moms, I could see the flashing lights from the fire trucks and ambulance. It was the longest mile I've ever drove in my life. It felt like it took an hour to get there! It's a wonder I didn't kill myself driving so fast.

I ran inside, my mom was laying in the floor sobbing and crying. My dad was just standing there in shock. The paramedics were trying to work on him but they couldn't get the tube down him because his lungs and air passage was so closed up. It took them over 30 mins. and then they got it. By the time he got to the ER (which is only 2 blocks away) his heart stopped but they were able to get it restarted.

They took him up stairs to ICU and all we could do is pray to God. The doctors said that he was going to have some kind of brain damage but didn't know how bad. I never left his side. Over the next 24 hours he was having grandma seizures one of another and they could stop them. He had gone without oxygen too long. He wasn't going to make it. The doctor came in and said how sorry he was and that they tried everything but it was in Gods hands now. He asked us if we ever thought about organ donation. We all instantly said "yes", that's what we want to do! Just to know that a little part of him will be living on somewhere else and helping another child, mother, father, sister, brother, husband or wife.

Within a hour the Iowa Donor Network showed up at the hospital to talk with us. They were trained nurses that specialize in organ transplants. We all went in this big conference room. They were the nicest people I've ever met. They explained everything and answered all of our questions. We even let Devin's friends and parents and his girlfriend and her parents come in and join us. They said they found four people that were a match for Devin's organs. The first and most critical was a little boy, Colt, he was 9 yrs. old and was very sick. He had a rare liver disease and didn't have alot of time left. He got Devin's liver. I get letters from him all the time and by the end of that summer he was out riding his bike being a normal kid! He's still doing great! Then there was the heart recipient, he had an infected heart pump and only weeks to live. He's married with 3 kids. He got Devin's heart. He went back to work within 2 months after the transplant. Then one of the kidney's/pancreas recipient was a single guy who love to go hunting and hiking and spend alot of time outside but he couldn't do any of those things because he was on dialysis. He got one Devin's kidney and is now enjoying life to the fullest. Then the other kidney recipient I didn't know a whole lot about, I would hear that she was doing real good but that's I all I knew until yesterday...

It's been 5 yrs. now, I can't believe it's been that long. I still stay in contact with IDN and yes, the same nurses that were there that day. I got a letter in the mail from the IDN, all letters come though them. Inside was another envelope with a card inside of that. It was from the kidney recipient. I immediately started to tear up. So I was going to share with all of you what the card said, get your tissues out girls!

The card says, "Thanks" seems like such a little thing to say... open the card and says, ...when you've blessed my life in such a BIG WAY!

This is what she wrote inside,
Dear Devin's family, First I want to thank you for the wonderful gift that you and your family gave me. Thank you for giving me my life back! Thank you for giving my husband a wife back and thank you for giving my son his mommy back! There are no words to describe what Devin has given me. And believe me I'm living my life to the fullest. When we got the call Friday the 13th, we were on top of the world, until we found out the great sacrifise that went into saving my life. I have a 13 yr old son, so I could not imagine the heartbreak that went into making such a decision. I bought this card 5 yrs ago, waiting to hear about the precious angel that gave me the gift of life. Now my angel has a name, "Devin"!! I now have a name to pray to God to. He must of been a very strong person because everytime I have been in the hospital in the last 5 yrs, it has nothing to do with the kidney. A nurse told me that this kidney was a fighter and wasn't givin' up! I would love to meet you Wendy and your family to just thank you, even though I know it will never make up for everything you and your family has lost. I hope that it helps even just a little bit to let you know that I will do everything I can to keep this kidney heathly. I have the best kidney doctors on the east coast. Actually everyone at ECU transplant are top of the line. I also hope they don't get a big head cuz' i know that they are reading this now. May your days always be filled with sunny "Devin" smiles. I know mine will be!! Thank you forever, Pam, JJ and John.

Hope you all enjoyed it. Organ donation saves lives. GIVE THE GIFT OF LIFE!! Please make this post popular for awareness!

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maofe...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 3:03 PM I absolutely would! great post Wendy

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Lb128f
Jun. 3, 2008 at 3:50 PM

Thank you for sharing Devin's story (and yours). I'm so sorry you lost Devin...my prayers are with you and your family. The gift of life is an amazing gift...it's truly an offering of love. It is great that you have contact with the recipients...what a blessing.

My niece passed in an auto accident at 16 and was also a donor...she had signed up to donate at DMV 3 hours prior to her death. I fully understand all the thoughts, feelings and actions involved...it is in fact (to me) comforting to know our loved ones have provided life to others.

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bgal8203
Jun. 4, 2008 at 10:11 AM

My mother died on 11/15/2007 following a stroke.  She was an organ donor, and in the weeks following her death my dad received a letter from the Organ Bank telling him that 3 lives had been saved by transplanting my mother's kidney's and liver.

A couple weeks ago he received another letter saying that 2 people had their sight restored through my mother's corneas, and dozens of others had their lives improved through tissue donations.

 I have been an organ donor as long as I can remember, and now I encourage everyone I can to do the same. 

 

 

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super...
Jun. 4, 2008 at 12:57 PM

I just want to let everyone know how much I appreciate you reading my post.  I think it's a very important cause that everyone should educate themself on! Or even just read a few wonderful stories that are posted on the donor websites. Then if you want to make the decision not to be a donor, that's okay too!

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