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Jun. 3, 2008 at 2:27 PM Time, can cause love to lose it's "lust" after a while.  The "puppy love" stage doesn't last forever.  I don't love my husband like I loved him when I first met him.  My love has evolved and matured. Some people like that "puppy love" stage and get discouraged as time goes by and flames flicker out.  It takes work to be in love, you constantly need to spice it up.  Some people don't want to put in the effort to be respectful, and understanding and considerate of their spouse's feelings. 

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 2:29 PM

Time. It takes time and things break over time and don't get fixed. Then there comes a day when you look at this person and think, "I don't care if he comes home today." At least that's what happened with my ex-husaband. This is what has happened to my mom and step-dad. It happens. It doesn't happen overnight.

Needs are not met and a void develops. Falling out of love seems logical after that.

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 2:31 PM I use to ask myself that same question.  I always thought there would be no way I could ever stop feeling the way I do about the father of my children.  That was 20 years ago and about 10 years in I started not wanting him to be around as much.  Didn't care how much he worked or if he wanted to go hunting or go out with the guys.  And when we first got married I wanted him with me all the time, we did everything together.  10 more years have passed and in that time we have gotten divorced and have realized that we should have not gone into that so fast because we depend on each other so much to this day.  But take it from me, time can make a heart change and sometimes it is just confused, but it will figure it out eventually and hopefully it all works out....good luck!

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 2:34 PM I think if its true then you are still in love but lke others has said it isnt the puppy love it is even better you just have to make time to the things you use to I have this same question from time to time but I know I love my husband it just isnt the same kind of love!!!!

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