I'm in the 40 plus age group and I remember when having a child out of wedlock was shameful.  I heard about teens that couldn't participate in graduation because they were pregnant and showing.  Why now is the world/media so fascinated with stars having children out of wedlock? Halle and her baby's dad, Brangelina (WTF!!!!). I'm so sick of seeing Angelina Jolie - don't get me wrong, I love her as an actress but dammit I'm tired of seeing her struting around with her big belly like it's a badge of honor or something.  But let one of us get prego with no hubby and we're all sorts of tramps and skanks.  It's such a double standard.  Then we wonder why our youth thinks it's cute and ok and run around with tops on so tight you can see their belly button sticking out.  I don't want to see all that.  Leave something to the imagination already.

Just my 2 cents.  What are your thoughts?

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 3:22 PM First, let me say that I would have never guessed from your avatar that your in an over 40 group! Second, I'm not married but I'm also not a teen. My SO and I had not been together very long when we got pregnant but we both knew that we wanted to be together and we both wanted children so we went with it. I had Isley in May 07` and turned thirty the following July.Marriage is just something we decided to wait on. We live together and are a family. But as far as Hollywood goes, I do feel that they glamorize having children out of wedlock. This is where we as parents step in and direct our children in the right way. We have to teach them responsibility and morals. If we do our job well then we shouldn't have to worry so much about what they see in the world. Does that make sense or did I just ramble?!? LOL...Have a good day!!

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 3:34 PM well my thoughts are why wouldn't our youth think it is ok? Just like you said they glamerize it so much. Times have changed and some of plain respect went with it. I was an unwed teen when I had my daughter but that was my choice! I didn't feel the need to run out and get married to someone I knew I didn't want to spend the rest of my life with... I also was mature enough to get a job and save up for when I went on maternity leave I could still pay my bills and take care of my daughter..Dad was around but he really wasn't needed financially...The girls I see around here could care less about trying to live next week next month hell even next year.... I don't understand where the values went and the self respect...some of so proud to be pregnant that they wearing name brand maternity clothes before the even began to show.....

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 5:08 PM I'm over 40 too and I had my oldest daughter out of wedlock.  Fortunately for me, no one looked at me as if I were a tramp or skank because I never carried myself in that manner.  My daughter doesn't carry herself in that manner either.  It all boils down to what you teach your children at home.  I used to want to shelter her from certain things when she was a little bit younger.....like not let her watch videos on MTV....etc....etc.  But then I realized that I cannot shelter her from the world.  All I can do is teach her right from wrong.....and by the grace of God, I have done an exceptional job!  My sixteen year is a true young lady. 

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Jun. 3, 2008 at 7:16 PM

I think it al depends on where you are in your life. If you are financially stable and ready to take on that responsibility then thats all you. On the other hand,if your baby is just going to end up adding you to the list of statistics living on welfare,then thats not a good look for you.  The bottom line though is that if you are a bible person then you know the sin is in the sex,not the baby. After God forgives a single mother,she has to forgive herself too,then she is free to be as happy as she wants to be about the blessing in the belly.

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Aug. 18, 2008 at 11:45 PM

Do you feel that Godwill forgive a woman for having a baby by another man even if she is married and getting a divorce? This is adultery even if the husband and wife are not together.

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