Me and my husband have been together for almost 5 years. We were married 8 months ago and we have a beautiful daughter together named Hailey. She turned 3 in December. I really want her to have a little brother or sister and I don't want to wait until she is 10 or so. I don't want there to be a big gap between them. I would like for her to be around 4 or 5 when we have another one. I am 22 and my husband is 24. We both have jobs as of now. I was a stay at home mom until about 2 months ago. I thought it would be best for Hailey to be around other kids on a daily basis which has helped her tremendously. We love our daughter very much. I'm not sure how my family feels about it. I think people still think we are young and don't need anymore kids even though they love Hailey to death, but I would love to have another one and I have seriously been thinking about it for a couple months now. I am currently on the DEPO birth control shot which you take every 3 months. My next shot is due June 11 and I'm thinking I might take this next shot which will last until around September and then start trying to have another baby. I have been going to college since I was pregnant with Hailey and I have one more class to finish my Associates degree which will be done the end of this Summer. I really feel that I am ready to have another baby but I'm scared that it will not be supported by my family. What do you guys think?

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Twinm...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 5:33 PM

hi,

it's all in what you think you could handle. if you think that mentally and financially you are ready for another child then by all means go for it. don't worry about what other people think. all of my children are 4 years apart. my first i had at 19, she's now 9, my son i had at 23 and my twins right after my 28th birthday. so it's basically you and your husbands call. good luck!

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count...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 5:38 PM Your family will support you in the long run, trust me.  My husband and I already had 5 kids and our families weren't very happy when we told them that we wanted to try for another one.  Well, almost a year later we found out that we were pregant with our 6th.  We told our kids first and they were so happy, next we told our parents, suprise, they were excited!  I mean, who doesn't love a baby?  As long as you and your hubby are ready for one more, then everyone else will be too.

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gusti...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 5:54 PM i say go for it if that  is what you and hubby want then do it

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yummy...
Jun. 3, 2008 at 6:18 PM I totally understand what you mean. I think you guys should go for it. You're not to young. I have my son who is almost 3 and my daughter is 9 months and I really would like to get pregnant again soon... Like you said in your reply to me, you see someone pregnant and u just want to be pregnant too. I'm totally with you there. All my friends are either pregnant or just had babies recently... there babies make my baby not look like a baby. If you feel you are ready.... then your ready... you'll be amazed at how much love you have when baby number two comes. I thought I had a lot with my son, and when my daughter got here I was worried about not being able to love each child equally and I love them  both so much its crazy.... good luck!

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haile...
Jun. 4, 2008 at 10:34 AM Thanks for the comments you guys. I really think we will try for number two after my next round of birth control.

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haile...
Jun. 9, 2008 at 7:37 AM I am also young I am 21 and my Husband is 23.. We also have a daughter named Hailey which is going to be 2 on June 3o this month. And we have been trying for baby #2 for about a month now. I also am afraid of what my parents and family members might say about having another baby and like your family my FAMILY loves Hailey...  But when they found out I was pregnant with Hailey they gave me greif cuz i was so young and they love her. and I believe it will happen again they will say what they have to say but once the baby is born or they get use to the idea that i am going to have another one they will love my next baby just the same.... I hope that helps.. And you do what you think is right...

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