My mom has cancer......... (updated)

[Stacie-Kim]

You know its weird No matter how old you are you always need your mommy! I am 29 and the thought of not having my mother around is a thought I won't even let cross my mind.... We just found out she has rectal cancer... She has been to 2 doctors had 2 biopsies ........ And has to go in on friday the 13 th so she can be put under So they can do the BIG Biopsy . One thing I have learned is Don't be afriad to get a second oppinion! The first Doctor she saw was SO Pessimistic. He was telling her Best case she had 70% chance to live but he was sure it was worst case... and He had her practically dead already..... We made her go to a Doctor that we heard was really good and only deals with cancer...... He said she def has to do the kemo/radiation thing But With her attitude she was going to be fine. Because she insists (and I think she is 100% right) On making jokes about it ...... (she has very large breasts ) She says (joking) I couldn't have breast cancer I could have made 2 nice lil perky breasts out of one of theese babies ... NO I get ass cancer....... Or one day she made a comment she was going to laugh her ass off if something (i can't remember) was going to happen ... then said laughing ooh if it was only that easy..... and then she descussed a diet (my sister the dietitian was there) and her and the doctor laughed about cheetos being a food group. I asked her if she feels like she is going to die..... She said NOT AT ALL! And the doctor agrees that is the most importrant thing. you have to be ready for the fight........ I never thought my mom would get sick . ..........

 

My mom went in for her biopsy today... And they said the tumor is the size of an Orange... And we got the results back from the petscan And the cancer has spread to her lymph nodes ......We were expecting better results.... and the doctor is worried now.. This is so hard for me to deal with.... We have to wait untill the end of the week for the results of the biopsy... What REALLY pisses me off IS SHE WENT FOR A FRIGGIN COLONOSOPY four years ago!!!!! when she felt something was wrong THE STUPID ass doctor trold her it was a hemroid!!!!!!!! every doctor she sees says she doesnt have one hemroid and it was the F*cking tumor! But there is no "proof" of that ... whatever.... Sorry but I just really needed to vent today.... the thought that she did the right thing and went and they told her she was fine and she wasn't just gets to me.... It's just one of those days you know..... I will pick my positive attitude back up tomorrow... I need to be upset today.......Especially since I can't be upset infront of her or my family because I don't want to make them upset.....

[hellsfury]

Jun. 4, 2008 at 2:01 PM

I wish your mom well...My father had prostate cancer and did the surgery he stayed positive and everything went fine,,my father gets checked to make sure it stays gone..and yes staying positive and keeping upbeat is sometimes the best medicine...

good luck and god bless you and your family through this difficult time...

[SquishyMommyof2]

Jun. 4, 2008 at 2:01 PM I am so sorry to hear about your mom. My mom just recently got breast cancer for the 2nd time.  I hope you can find some peace, it isnt an easy thing to deal with.  Look into Cancer Treatments Centers of America

[Stacie-Kim]

Jun. 4, 2008 at 2:06 PM Thank you so much for your comments they REALLY DO help me!!

(Original Poster)

[fairysurreale]

Jun. 4, 2008 at 2:09 PM I am sorry to hear about your mom.  My grandmother had throat cancer and the Dr's gave her a 20% chance of survival.  She ended up beating the odds and lived for almost 15 years after her diagonisis.  She died on what would have been her 16th anniversary.  I will keep her in my prayers and my thoughts go out to your family during this time.

[ndmomof4]

Jun. 4, 2008 at 2:10 PM I am so sorry to hear about your mom. We just lost my 49yr old husband to lung cancer but his prognosis wasn't good from the beginning and although he did keep up his sense of humor and wanted more than anything to fight, it didn't work out that way. The one thing I would say is to keep laughing and make the most of every moment. We never talked about my husband dying because all we wanted to think about was him living and because we did that it is easy to remember him not as the disease but as the funny, loving wonderful man that he was. The hardest part is that my stepkids lost their mom to cancer when they were teenagers and now they lost their dad as well....hang in there and don't try to do everything yourself. If you need help or support don't be afraid to ask for it and know that there are many prayers with you, your mom and your family.

[rgh3angel]

Jun. 4, 2008 at 8:29 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your mom's cancer. My great aunt had breast cancer AND rectal and she's in her late 80's and healthy as a horse as far as we know! (she got sick with the rectal cancer in her late 70's) I bet with that positive outlook your mom will be a-ok...she looks like a fighter :-)

 

 

[Lb128f]

Jun. 5, 2008 at 11:18 AM I'm sorry about your Mom's diagnosis. She has the right attitude about it though....being positive makes a huge difference. Saying a prayer. She is beautiful...good luck to her.

[AlohaWahine]

Jun. 5, 2008 at 2:48 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your Mom having cancer.  I am a two time thyroid cancer survivor. Positive attitude is the best way to stay focus. May she have a speedy recovery.  Sending her prayers.  God Bless and help her through it all. 

"Choose the finer things that life offers. Reject what is worthless with a smile."

[jodithetiger]

Jun. 12, 2008 at 11:34 PM Your mom will be in my prayers tomorrow for her biopsy. I know what it's like to have your mom have cancer (mine had cervical cancer) and how hard it is. She fought long and hard and was so brave for a year and a half.  I lost her when I was 22, a little over 4 years ago. Spend as much time with her as possible, even when things are good, because you never know. I wish I had spent more time with my mom and I miss her every day.

[terri62]

Jun. 14, 2008 at 1:50 PM Your mom is in my thoughts and prayers.