i have a problem and i need all the advice i can get. my kids grandparents never want to keep them or spend any time with them. they all live very close to us, but never come by and see the kids. both our kids (one is 4 and one is 2) are very well behaved. don't get me wrong, they do have their moments. but i still don't get why they won't spend time with them. we only ask them to babysit like once a month or sometimes less often, and they usually say no. and on the rare occasions that they do keep them they fuss the whole time about how tired they are or some crap. i don't know, am i wrong for being so upset or what. i just get mad when everytime that i go somewhere with my kids i see alot of kids with their grandparents and mine never get that. i had a great relationship with my gparents and always felt like they wanted me around, why can't my kids have these great memories too?????

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Jun. 8, 2008 at 7:43 PM I dont have really a lot of advice. My mom doesnt care for my 1yr old dad so she dont have anything to do with her.  before she came along she nick named her "donna" for dont wanna. I was pissed as hell even my older bro calls her that. But anyways I was having a flash back lol. I would try not to worry about it. If they dont want to apart of their lives than thats them missing out. and you know that youve done your best to try to keep them involved. are they your parents or his.

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Jun. 8, 2008 at 8:12 PM

sad to say they are my parents. my in laws are a little better about spending time with them



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Jun. 9, 2008 at 9:59 PM yea i understand, just hang in there

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Jun. 25, 2008 at 2:02 PM

I was relieved to read I am not the only Mom experiencing grandparents that could care less.  My problem is similar, how ever, my In laws have three other grandchildren with my husbands sister that they dode on, see, buy expensive gifts and trips for.  And they live in Jacksonville!!  My M.I.L. lives 25 mins away and couldn't give a crap about our two kids what so ever.  It causes me great distress bearing witness to my sister in laws three kids getting ipods and wii's and clothes and trips and my son who is carrying on the last name, get a t-shirt and a video and not even a second thought.  If my M.I.L. says she'd like to see my daughter, she'll cancel a coulpe of days later.  My son is never asked about or mentioned. What do I do? just ignore them? Can anyone give me good advice on how to deal with this?

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Mar. 25, 2010 at 5:30 PM

Glad to know it's not just me, except NONE of my kids' grandparents are very interested.  It hurts me and makes me angry all at the same time.  My mom lives an hour away and comes over some, but not very often.  The others live 10 minutes away and don't come over.  My MIL has no interest in him and will jump through hoops for her other grandkids in TX.  She goes to see them 6 hours away ten times more than my child.  I get very upset, but my husband says don't worry about it b/c it's her loss.  It's hard to think like that b/c I get protective over him.  He's such a good baby - I just don't understand.

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