what happens when you stop trying?

[allykittee1994]

     I have truly stopped trying in my marriage.  It seems no matter what i do i am always wrong no one is ever happy here anymore.  We argue constantly i am so sick of my life right now.. I just feel like crying, i pray every night it will get better but it dosent.  I try to be a good wife a mother and all but it is not good enough for anyone.  Eeight years and only a couple have been Happy my marriage then the kids then it stopped all this conflict.  I try to talk to him explain how i feel but it dosent matter to him.  I live in this house but what i really wnat is to just move away, away from all of this fighting and this pain.  Why does he make me feel like im not even worth being here .  im just a litttle nobody to him that he can push around .. My kids are suffering my  heart is hurting and anymore i just dont care.  Maaby that is my problem i have stopped caring or trying anymore cause it dosent seem to matter to anone but me how it will turn out anyway . 

[babygirl011207]

Jun. 14, 2008 at 10:01 PM my heart goes out to u....i wish i could say something wise or make it all go away b/c i was there at one point but in the end it just all worked out. if u ever just need to talk feel free to email me. my name is shaleen

[pizzababe089]

Jun. 14, 2008 at 11:05 PM   What have I told you,  your father and I are always here for you. But you gotta make the decisions yourself, not anyone make them for you.  As long as he knows you're gonna stay no matter what he does, then he's gonna treat you like crap.  And that's not what your father and I want for you and our grandkids.  Please listen to me when I say he's not worth trying for anymore. You need to worry about making yourslef and those kids happy, and right now in the situation you're in, it aint happening, girlfriend.  You can make it on your own, your just need to believe in yourself and the Lord. Trust me when I say, "YOU CAN DO IT!!"  Remember, mom is always hear to listen.  Love you   MOM

[Jane8]

Jun. 19, 2008 at 1:40 PM I've been in an unhappy marriage. My ex decided to leave. Was that for the best? I don't know. Who knows what could have been. Sometimes I wish we had tried harder. Have you guys talked about marriage counseling? Would he go? I think if he's willing then I would try. Too many people these days don't believe in their vows. I hope you and he both believe in them. If he's not willing to try to make it work then you should leave him. I'm a perfect example of a single mom. I started out with just $50 bucks. My mom let me stay with her until I got a job. Now I own my own home, have a car and a decent job. My son is happy and healthy. You don't NEED a man. In fact, you don't NEED anyone. People are there to be IN your life, to support you when you need it and to recieve your support when they need it. My ex told me, after it was all over, that he wished he'd never left me. That he knew what he had lost. But you know what? By then it was too late. I was over it and living a great life. Love ya! I hope you figure this out!!! -Jane

[Stephanie101979]

Aug. 11, 2008 at 4:43 PM hugs