Even if this doesnt stop rape it is better to be careful because it can make a difference for some people!! No matter what people say. 
Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)

This is important information for females of ALL ages.

When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my
lady friends, but I forwarded it to most everyone in my
address book. My male friends have female friends and this information is
too important to miss someone.
Please pass it along.

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were
interviewed on
what they look for in a potential victim and here are
some interesting
facts:


1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is
hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a
ponytail, bun, braid
or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are
also likely to
go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair
are not common
targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will
look for
women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of
them carry
scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone,
searching through
their purse, or doing other activities while walking
because they are
off-guard and can be easily overpowered.


4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early
morning, between
5:00 a.m. and 8:30 a.m.


5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked
is grocery
store parking lots. Number two: Are office parking
lots/garages.
Number three: Are public restrooms.


6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to
grab a woman
and quickly move her to another location where they
don't have to
worry about getting caught.


7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape
carries a 3-5 year
sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.


8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
discouraged
because it only takes a minute or two for them to
realize that going
after you isn't worth it because it will be
time-consuming.


9) These men said they would not pick on women who have
umbrellas, or
other similar objects that can be used from a distance,
in their
hands.


Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really
close to the
attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to
convince these
guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If
someone is
following behind you on a street or in a garage or with
you in an
elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask
them a question,
like what time is it, or make general small talk: 'I
can't believe it
is so cold out here,' 'we're in for a bad winter.' Now
you've seen
their face and could identify them in a line-up; you
lose appeal as a
target.


11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands
in front of
you and yell STOP or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this
man talked to
said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed
that she would
not be afraid to fight back.
Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a
huge advocate of
it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I
HAVE PEPPER SPRAY
and holding it out will be a deterrent.


13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with
strength but you
can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the
waist from
behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between
the elbow and
armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One
woman in a
class this guy taught told him she used the underarm
pinch on a guy
who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she
broke through the
skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed
stitches. Try
pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can
stand it - it
hurts.


14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I
know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a
guy's parts it
is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger
the guy and
make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these
rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause
a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.


15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his
first two fingers
and bend them back as far as possible with as much
pressure pushing
down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me
without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both
knuckles cracked
audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply.
Always be aware
of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can
and if you see
any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your
instincts!!!


You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel
much worse if
the guy really was trouble.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest
point on your
body. If you are close enough to use it, do!


2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If
a robber
asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO
HIM. Toss it away
from you....chances are that he is more interested in
your wallet
and/or purse than you, and he will go for the
wallet/purse. RUN LIKE
MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!


3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick
out the back
tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start
waving like
crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else
will. This has
saved lives.


4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after
shopping,
eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their
checkbook, or making
a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be
watching you, and
this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the
passenger
side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go.
AS SOON AS
YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO
NOT DRIVE OFF,
repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and
speed into
anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you.
If the person
is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As
soon as the car
crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them
find your body
in a remote location.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking
lot or parking garage:


A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at
the passenger
side floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car
from the
passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims
by pulling
them into their vans while the women are attempting to
get into their
cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your
vehicle, and
the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the
seat nearest
your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or
work, and get a
guard/policeman to walk you back out.

IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better
paranoid than dead.)


6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs.
(Stairwells are
horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot.
This is
especially true at NIGHT!)


7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his
control,
ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running
target) 4 in 100
times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital
organ. RUN,
preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic:
STOP! It may get
you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a
good-looking,
well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies
of unsuspecting
women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked
'for help'
into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he
abducted his
next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her
friend heard a
crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she
called the
police because it was late and she thought it was weird.
The police
told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had
crawled near a
window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the
street and get
run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on
the way,
whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that
they think a
serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to
coax women out
of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby.
He said they
have not verified it, but have had several calls by
women saying that
they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're
home alone at
night.

Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a
crying baby ----This
should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory
was
mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday
when they
profiled the serial killer in Louisiana.

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know.
It may save a
life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle.
I was going
to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love
your mothers,
wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it
onto them, as
well.

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Comments:

summe...
Jun. 27, 2008 at 8:31 AM This is interesting!

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Kat4162
Jul. 18, 2008 at 8:31 AM

Wow.  Thanks for posting this.

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dawne...
Jul. 28, 2008 at 9:20 PM That is wonderful...

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VBlack
Sep. 16, 2008 at 9:03 AM

Good Information!

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