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things that piss me off - for SamEvasMom
- Jun 18, 2008 at 6:51 PM
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a few days ago, one of the topics here asked us to consider the things that make us angry.
i had a hard time, actually, thinking of that many things - for the most part, i'm a quiet little soul with a very long fuse. there are, however, some actions that appear to me to be so despicable, so nasty, so horrible and mean-spirited, it seems to me that the only recourse of a civilised human being is to return fire with fire.
the person who posted the journal entry A Special Message for Baby's Grandparents - reprinted from http://www.keepyourbaby.com/special_message_for_grandparents.html - is such a person.
the views espoused by this article are despicable, cruel and insensitive towards adoptees, birth parents, and all who would adopt a child. the author of the article no doubt professes herself to be a "Christian" though it's fairly clear by the end of the first paragraph this person not only has no clue what it means to treat someone else the way she would wish to be treated, were she in the other's position. it's not so much stupidity, i think, as lack of imagination that leads the more unenlightened into such narrow interpretations and understandings of what should be the moral center of all humanity.
but be that as it may - whether it's ignorance, an inflated sense of one's own place in the cosmic scheme, or inability to empathize - the fact of the matter is that this person hurt someone who happens to be a cafemom friend of mine. a person who is adopted herself, who is clearly very attached and very pleased to be a part of the family that embraced her.
and so i dashed off a comment to Miz-Speaker-For-the-Unborn. Which has since been removed, but allow me to reprint it -
"it's time to get your head and your mind out of that patriarchal butt you have it stuck in."
not eloquent, perhaps, but effective at communicating my disgust. you see, dear reader, i don't feel i owe explanations OR eloquence to anyone capable of inflicting that amount of pain so carelessly in the cause of their own narrowminded views.
does it make me mean? as samevasmom charged. read my profile - i left her comment there.
as i've said in other places, i'm a witch, not a saint. what do you all think?
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oh - right. You're the one who should be ashamed. :: rolling my eyes::
I went to that article about grandparents. So many things about that article pissed me off!!
What I don't get, is WHY, if people are going to be offended if someone doesn't agree with their point of view on their journal posts, then WHY do they make it public? or for that matter, why do they write it at all?
I agree that you should not have to defend your point or clarify your opinion. But perhaps you should keep in mind that people are more shalow than you give them credit for, and might need a little explaining??
Full Moon Blessings;
~ Mama McD ~
Her Views are one sided generalizations and she uses them as propaganda, its no different than what she accuses the social workers and adoptions agencies of throwing around to encourage choosing adoption.
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Yeah, this strikes a nerve with me! My sister has a 3 1/2 year old adopted daughter, who I love more than words can say. She is a beautiful, strong, sassy, independent girl and I am very protective of her.
So much of what that article says is complete and utter bull shit. For example,
"The social worker will not tell you that adoption itself is emotional abuse of the child and of his natural mother." My niece has not been abused by being adopted. And her mother made the choice out of love. Genna is a twin and was the 5th child born to a woman who makes approximately 100 dollars a month. This woman's husband left when he found out his wife was pregnant again. And Genna was born with a club foot and her mother knew she could not provide her with the medical attention and care she needed-so out of love she put her up for adoption. I'm sure it was a hard thing for her to do, but no one was being abused!
Genna knows about her mom. She knows her name. She knows that her mother loved her very much but didn't have the money to take care of her. She proudly tells anyone who asks that God told (my sister and her husband) to go to Guatemala because there was a baby there waiting for them. She knows Margarita (sp) was her "first" mommy, and my sister is her "second" mommy. I love it that my sister has been honest with her about these things. Which leads me to the second quote...
"...they (the social workers) have to acknowledge that an adopted child will suffer emotionally from being separated from his natural mother. Babies can only bond with their natural mothers. The best that adopters can hope for is that a baby will attach to them as their caregivers. Genna has completely and totally bonded with my sister. She ADORES her. And I am not adopted but I do have emotional issues where my mother is concerned. We all suffer emotionally in some area, and having our natural mother raise us does not ensure that we will be issue free.
It is a very narrow-minded article!!!! No one has the right to say that adoption is a bad thing, just as no one has the right to say that divorce is wrong, or being gay is wrong, or staying at home with your kids makes you better than those who work 9-5ers. It is different for every person and we have no right to judge.
So no Annie, you are not mean. But the writer of that article is!
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