I will be a better parent

[Heatherahh]

I will be a better parent then my own were. No my parents did not drink or hit me, They just had very conditional love for me. as long as They could brag about me, I was worthy, as long as I was getting awards, and bringing home trophies. I was the best daughter ever, as soon as I said I need help, I have been starving myself I was told "what kind of brat are you,", Anorexia is just a spoiled girls disease", or when I discovered I was un wed and pregnant at 28, by my then boyfriend of 5 yrs.my dad would call me daily and tell me what a slut I was, and  How I would be a horrible parent, and Now my daughter just turned 6 they talk about how they have always loved her, My mom even wrote a book about how great it is having a biracial grand child, They act like they have always been there for me. and thats not true,

  I want my kids to know right from wrong and make good decisions, but I also want them to know I love them always, no matter what. when they hit that bump in the road, I will be here for them, I may not always agree with them as they grow, I may not approve of all their choices, but I will always be their biggest supporter and I will always love them.

[kssamda]

Jun. 21, 2008 at 2:09 PM

I agree wholeheartedly - even without the premise of conditional love from our parents, I think it's a good goal to be a better parent.

 I am so sorry that you did have that kind of love from your parents, and that they deny it. Learning from others mistakes can make you a better person (and mother!) . Kudos!