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- June 22, 2008 at 3:50 PM by ohsoblessed
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A while ago my mom had a problem with alcohol. We got her to go to 1 hospital and it was horrible so she left and then we got her into another place that she picked it and it wasn't cheap. My Aunt and Grandparents split the cost and sent her there. My older sister took care of all of my moms things because she lived just down the street. My other sister took care of my moms shop. We all called her as much as possible because she was so upset all the time. Well she didn't stay in that place the whole time because she thought she could do it better at home so she left. Most of the family got very upset with her for leaving. When she got home she was just a different person. The same but different. Its hard to explain. Well she got into a fight with the sister that was running the shop and they stopped talking. Then gradually the rest of the family stopped talking to her because she was always so mean and she always talked about everyone. I don't mean just bitching about them either. She told me things about my aunt and grandparents that I never knew and was probably never supposed to know as long as I lived. Everyone has their secrets I don't judge them for anything that my mother told me. It was almost like she wanted to make sure we all knew that she wasn't the only one that made mistakes in life. So anyway no one would talk to my mom. For a very long time I was the only one that would talk to her. She would always talk about how no one loved her or cared enough to call or stop by. She said that no one loved her but me. It bothered me that she talked about everyone to me but she was going through so much I just let her talk. Well things have gotten a lot better now. She is doing great. She has a great job that pays very well and she is finally getting her life back to where it was before everything fell apart. I'm very happy for her and proud of her. Its just that she still talks about my sisters to me. They both talk to her just not as much as they used to. I really think that their relationships were damaged too bad to be what they were. I don't know what to do though. I don't want her to keep talking about them to me. She still says they don't love her enough to pick up the phone. The sister that lives by her will stop by and leave notes on the door or leave borrowed items on the porch. She does this even if my mom is home and my mom hates it. I love my mom very much but when you see her or get on the phone with her its very very hard to get off. You can't just have a quick conversation. Its not possible. Sometimes it takes me an hour to get off the phone with her so I think thats part of the reason why my sisters are they way they are. Plus if you go a few days without talking to her she gets kindof an attitude but will insist that she doesn't and its so frustrating! Sometimes I want to say "See!!! This is why they don't want to talk to you!" but I can't say that to my mom. But when she talks about them not having anything to do with her she acts like its for no reason, almost like the last 2 years never happened. I always try to defend them to her and tell her that they do love her but she says no they don't. When I know she is going to call them for something I will call them too and say "Momma is going to call you for such and such reason so make sure you answer for her." If she is really having a hard day I might call and say "you really need to call momma she really misses you." Its just so damn frustrating. I'm getting to the point where I'm not going to call them and tell them to answer the phone anymore. How can I say they do too care when I have to call and tell them to answer for her because its important. But even if they don't they are still my sisters and I love them just like I love my mom and I don't think its right for her to talk about them to me. Plus it kindof makes me wonder if she ever talks about me like that. I know that everyone talks about someone at some time or another. If anyone says they don't its a lie. But for a mother to talk about one child to another.........I can't imagine talking about one of my kids like that to another.
Tags: mom, sister, family gossip
- Written by ohsoblessed on June 22, 2008 at 3:50 PM
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